What does it take for you to feel comfortable around someone?

[zas1]

I had a terrible marriage and not great relationship with my late father, plus had some pretty bad experiences with harassment and worse over the years. Recently, well over 2 years I got to know someone, a similar aged man, who I just feel very comfortable around. It is certainly not a romantic thing but I can't put my finger on it..There is just something about him that puts me at my ease in a way I haven't felt for a long time if I am honest. I wondered if you had experienced sthg like this with someone?

[bridie69]

For me it is an indefinable thing. Do I feel treated like a human being, do I feel not physically threatened, do I feel listened to. People who give others space especially men that is a big one too.