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When you were 15 and were dumped....

(26 Posts)
Wotsitsareafterme Tue 27-Oct-15 21:21:10

What made you feel better?
Dn is very flat. I need ideas to help her move on

sky1010 Tue 27-Oct-15 21:22:19

My friends all came round to see me, with cake.

I got my hair restyled and some new clothes.

I started shagging seeing someone from work.

spudlike1 Tue 27-Oct-15 21:24:05

Like any heartbreak treat it like a bereavement take it very seriously , as seriously as you would any adult relationship breakdown / rejection.

ImMeMe Tue 27-Oct-15 21:30:20

I sang 'I will survive'. A lot. Loudly. Often with friends.

BeetlebumShesAGun Tue 27-Oct-15 21:31:16

I was 15 when my first "proper" boyfriend dumped me. My mum let me take to the sofa in pj's for pretty much a week, providing chocolate, hugs and Bridget Jones movie. She also invited my best friend over to talk sense into me and when I was feeling better, encouraged me to go out with my friends and have them over lots.

Generic but it really worked. Heartbreak is horrible, especially when you're a teen. Hope your DN feels better soon smile

MisForMumNotMaid Tue 27-Oct-15 21:37:33

Moving on is very difficult if you don't have the life experience to appreciate life does move on.

I most appreciated being taken seriously, my pain was real (okay the world didn't end, it was just a silly little teen relationship etc - with adult eyes I can appreciate), at the time it was everything.

Maybe help her focus on a girly night in and a few friend trips out, her special characteristics, rather than encouraging moving on. Time will help with that

moopymoodle Tue 27-Oct-15 21:38:33

Nothing. It felt like the end of the world and took a couple of years to pass. I laugh now but at the time I was heart broken!

EskiDecaff Tue 27-Oct-15 21:42:05

Shopping! New haircut, all very trivial but perfect. And yes agree with singing songs loudly, out of tune and selfies on bebo to see how many 'loves' I'd get that day blush whatever happened to bebo?!

slugseatlettuce Tue 27-Oct-15 21:45:07

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

drspouse Tue 27-Oct-15 21:49:24

He turned up to a party he'd said he'd go to with me, with someone else. All my friends were hugely indignant and told me just what a b'stard he was. That helped loads.

hilbil21 Tue 27-Oct-15 21:51:51

Alcohol! Yes at 15! I had never drank till he cheated on me with one of my friends! All my friends had had their first encounter with alcohol while I was in the relationship and so they gave me my first taste of vodka when we split up! lol x

Seeyounearertime Tue 27-Oct-15 21:52:36

I blackened my heart and turned it stone and figured I'll never be hurt like that again so refused to let anyone close for a very long time. Now I'm a misanthropic, hateful, twisted bastard with an equally misanthropic, hateful and twisted bastard partner.

I got drunk.

AnyFucker Tue 27-Oct-15 21:54:01

I went and snogged another lad.

RNBrie Tue 27-Oct-15 21:55:16

My usually emotionless dad took me out for fish and chips and talked to me about how it wasn't me, that I was lovely and that is have to have lots of relationships that fail before I'd find someone just right for me. Was the highlight of our relationship at the time.

ragged Tue 27-Oct-15 21:57:03

DD whinged via Instagram at all their mutual friends (cheered her up no end).

CarnivalBearSetFree Tue 27-Oct-15 21:57:26

Keeping busy. At the time it was the end of the world. How could I ever get over the love of my life!? But I did. And now I laugh/cringe at the thought. As I'm sure everyone does.

Encourage her to get out with friends. Tell her it's okay to be sad. Tell her it won't last forever even if it feels like it will. Be silly, watch films, make her laugh.

VocationalGoat Tue 27-Oct-15 21:57:36

My mum hugged me and cradled me as I sobbed on the toilet seat. I'll never forget! And my brothers teased the fecking living daylights out of me... quoted all of my love letters. And for some reason, every time the dumper's name came up, they would say it in a Popeye voice followed by a 'Popeye' laugh. Like this...
FFS. Brothers!
My mum was the best ever... still is. smile
I was 17 though, not 15.

redleotard Wed 28-Oct-15 03:35:55


ThisIsStillFolkGirl Wed 28-Oct-15 07:53:02

This is a thing? Seriously? Getting overinvolved in your 15 yr old niece's love life?

I occupy a different world sometimes... confused

WorzelsCornyBrows Wed 28-Oct-15 08:38:21

I cried. Got my hair cut. Parents bought me chocolates and a CD I'd wanted for ages.

Then I called him every name under the sun.

I think it's sad when adults dismiss teen heartbreak. Yes it's almost inevitable that these relationships will end, that's not how it feels at the time and teens aren't equipped with the life experience to brush themselves off and move on in quite the same way we are. I remember the pain well.

TeamScoutRifle Wed 28-Oct-15 08:47:34

I have only been chucked once but it was horrible and I was 16 in the middle of my GCSE's and we had been together a year at least.
I didn't cry I just went straight out with my friends and got back on the horse with a man who had a motorbike grin good times.

Wotsitsareafterme Wed 28-Oct-15 09:39:34

Thanks everyone - the responses made me laugh and cry a bit. She's gone up the line to see her dad for a few days. I will plan something for when she gets back.
She binned the lovely but maybe a bit too nice boy and was thrilled when boy who looks like Justin bieber chased her and dated her )he was the dumper). Sadly a lesson she might have to learn many times over yet sad

Destinysdaughter Wed 28-Oct-15 09:48:33

My mum just shrugged and said 'plenty more fish in the sea' . Not helpful. He dumped me cos I wouldn't sleep with him ( at age 15 ). Called me a week later to say he'd take me back if I did. I was so desperate to keep him I agreed. However, I was too scared to go through with it and claimed to have my period. And got dumped again! Couldn't have told my parents as they would have been furious with me! Had to witness him snogging some blonde girl at the weekly disco, knowing he was having sex with her. Horrid feeling...sad

NotEmptyNow Wed 28-Oct-15 09:55:30

Destinysdaughter that's awful! I cried for a day then realised he was dick anyway and got over it. Funnily though I also found out a few months later that the reason he'd dumped me was because I was 'frigid'. He was 18, I was 15, teenage boys can be terrible.

HotNatured Wed 28-Oct-15 10:05:46

Nothing she can do. Just got to let time do it's job.

One of life's unavoidable lessons.

My first boyfriend dumped me because I wouldn't let him 'finger me' shock charming grin. He started going out with another girl the next day because she had already 'let someone cum on her hair at caravan club'. Classy times

I was so innocent back then, I couldn't think of anything worse than putting my tongue in a smelly boys mouth.

Made up for it since tho, and some grin

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