I'm a bit of a lurker, but have been on Mumsnet (with various NN) for a while now.
I'm currently going through a horrible, acrimonious divorce from an EA man (it's taken over 18 months, and probably won't be properly sorted for another 4 or 5 months). It's taken its toll on me, and my mental and physical health.
I'm working full time now, and I haven't been able to carry on doing the hobbies I used to do, as they are on days that I work. All of my friends are married, and are at the stages where their children are late teens/adults, so they are free-er to go out with their other halves, go on holiday and for weekends away etc. I'm so lonely - it feels like everyone is off to Paris for long weekends, or going to see the new Bond film and have a meal, going for a Friday night curry, or having (couple) friends over and I have no one to do those kind of things with.
I really miss the hobby groups I used to go to (can't say too much about what they are, as it would out me) and I haven't been able to find similar ones that I can get to that fit around my working hours. I love my job, and I work in possibly the most caring and lovely place you could find, but that's all I do - go to work, work and come home again. And at the weekends I either visit an ill family member, or do chores at home, on my own. I quite often don't speak to anyone at all from Friday evening when I leave work until Monday morning, when I'm back at work.
I joined Meet Up, but I can't find any local groups with a late enough starting time for me to get to them - I work in central London and have to commute back. I'd really like some local friends to pop to the cinema or out for a coffee with, in the evenings and at weekends. My married friends seem to spend all their time with their OHs or other couples.
I have managed to take most of my annual leave from work, but I have either visited my very elderly parents (my only family) or spent the time on my own. I do enjoy my own company, but I am not yet ready to go on holiday on my own, or do things like the cinema on my own.
I'm not sure if there is anything anyone can say to help, I just needed to get it off my chest, so thanks for reading!
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Lonely and feel really down about it
BatshitCrazyWoman · 27/10/2015 19:55
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