OD guy lied about his age...

[HotNatured]

So, I've been on two v good tinder dates with a guy, 40, divorced, 3 kids, all seems fine so far.

Last week he took me to a restaurant, he had made the reservation, upon checking in I noticed that he said his name quietly and rather covertly; he is not a quiet guy, he is v confident and forthright, which is why his behaviour seemed a little off key.

I didn't think much of it but today thought I would have a little nose on google... and I discovered that he is in fact 46, 47 in the spring of next year. I'm 41 and actually didn't like the fact that he was younger than me, ironically 6 years is a perfect age gap for me. But that's kind of irrelevant. I'm not sure how I feel about this blatant lie ! I kind of think had he been up front on the first date I would have laughed it off (wouldn't have been the first time actually!) but the fact that he hasn't thought to be fully honest now, after we are dating ? Seems a little sketchy to me.. Obviously I'm not serious about him yet as it's so early, but I would rather bow out now if this is a glaring red flag...

[RedMapleLeaf]

Er, hang on, why do you think he whispered his name in front of you??

[HotNatured]

So that I didn't google him and discover his real age ??

[JeffsanArsehole]

Yeah, why whisper the name?

And why have such an easily find outable age online

I'd be more worried he was a bit dim ....

[JeffsanArsehole]

Eh?

But you knew his name (presumably) by the second date???

[HotNatured]

Sorry, I meant his surname !

[Muckogy]

what else is he lying about?
that won't be the only thing.

[RedMapleLeaf]

You didn't know his surname?

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JeffsanArsehole

I know, odd hey. He isn't dim, he's an intelligent, successful, articulate guy

great name btw

[HotNatured]

No, why would I know his surname on date 2? It was a tinder date...

[penguinplease]

Did you check his marital status as well as his age?

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Muckogy

My thoughts as well.

[RedMapleLeaf]

Blimey.

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penguinplease

Yes, looks like he's definitely divorced. That's something he was honest about at least !

[ImperialBlether]

Why would you go out with someone and hope to hide your name from them? I don't understand that. I can see why you might not tell someone your name before you've met them, but by the second date? That's really odd in my opinion.

[penguinplease]

Oh well that's good, odd though, are you seeing him again ?

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ImperialBlether

No idea ! Maybe he was after a shag, well that didn't / hasn't happened.

[AnyFucker]

Doesn't everyone lie on OLD ?

I thought it was pretty much par for the course

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AnyFucker

I don't

[Out2pasture]

could a colleague have called in and made the reservations? or the same colleague pulled some strings at a restaurant that is hard to get into?
personally i'd just confront the issue; btw....

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

No, everyone doesn't lie on OLD
Where does this idea come from? Maybe because people only tend to talk about the shitty experiences. Lots of people are normal, even on tinder.

[AnyFucker]

Am not making any excuses for him ( because he sounds a bit rubbish) but I don't think it should come as a surprise to anyone that the people you come across on OLD may not always be what they seem

[AnyFucker]

Op, have you asked him why he told a blatant lie about his age ?

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Out2pasture

No, his photo is over google due to his job. There is no doubt the surname is his

I will have to confront if I see him again

[ImperialBlether]

Out2Pasture, you're a straw-clutcher, aren't you?

[magicstar1]

My ex told me he was 5 years younger than he was when we met. He thought I was younger too...after a few weeks came clean and felt really bad about it. Wasn't a big deal in my opinion..lit seems to be pretty normal these days.