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OD guy lied about his age...

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HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:26:02

So, I've been on two v good tinder dates with a guy, 40, divorced, 3 kids, all seems fine so far.

Last week he took me to a restaurant, he had made the reservation, upon checking in I noticed that he said his name quietly and rather covertly; he is not a quiet guy, he is v confident and forthright, which is why his behaviour seemed a little off key.

I didn't think much of it but today thought I would have a little nose on google... and I discovered that he is in fact 46, 47 in the spring of next year. I'm 41 and actually didn't like the fact that he was younger than me, ironically 6 years is a perfect age gap for me. But that's kind of irrelevant. I'm not sure how I feel about this blatant lie ! I kind of think had he been up front on the first date I would have laughed it off (wouldn't have been the first time actually!) but the fact that he hasn't thought to be fully honest now, after we are dating ? Seems a little sketchy to me.. Obviously I'm not serious about him yet as it's so early, but I would rather bow out now if this is a glaring red flag...

RedMapleLeaf Mon 26-Oct-15 17:33:10

Er, hang on, why do you think he whispered his name in front of you??

HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:35:14

So that I didn't google him and discover his real age ??

JeffsanArsehole Mon 26-Oct-15 17:36:19

Yeah, why whisper the name?

And why have such an easily find outable age online confused

I'd be more worried he was a bit dim ....

JeffsanArsehole Mon 26-Oct-15 17:36:46


But you knew his name (presumably) by the second date???

HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:37:37

Sorry, I meant his surname !

Muckogy Mon 26-Oct-15 17:38:10

what else is he lying about?
that won't be the only thing.

RedMapleLeaf Mon 26-Oct-15 17:38:30

You didn't know his surname?

HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:39:12


I know, odd hey. He isn't dim, he's an intelligent, successful, articulate guy

great name btw

HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:39:50

No, why would I know his surname on date 2? It was a tinder date...

penguinplease Mon 26-Oct-15 17:40:17

Did you check his marital status as well as his age?

HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:40:19


My thoughts as well.

RedMapleLeaf Mon 26-Oct-15 17:40:20


HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:42:49


Yes, looks like he's definitely divorced. That's something he was honest about at least ! hmm

ImperialBlether Mon 26-Oct-15 17:43:03

Why would you go out with someone and hope to hide your name from them? I don't understand that. I can see why you might not tell someone your name before you've met them, but by the second date? That's really odd in my opinion.

penguinplease Mon 26-Oct-15 17:43:45

Oh well that's good, odd though, are you seeing him again ?

HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:46:28


No idea ! Maybe he was after a shag, well that didn't / hasn't happened.

AnyFucker Mon 26-Oct-15 17:48:25

Doesn't everyone lie on OLD ?

I thought it was pretty much par for the course

HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 17:49:49


I don't

Out2pasture Mon 26-Oct-15 17:51:22

could a colleague have called in and made the reservations? or the same colleague pulled some strings at a restaurant that is hard to get into?
personally i'd just confront the issue; btw....

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Mon 26-Oct-15 17:57:20

No, everyone doesn't lie on OLD
Where does this idea come from? Maybe because people only tend to talk about the shitty experiences. Lots of people are normal, even on tinder.

AnyFucker Mon 26-Oct-15 17:59:28

Am not making any excuses for him ( because he sounds a bit rubbish) but I don't think it should come as a surprise to anyone that the people you come across on OLD may not always be what they seem thlwink

AnyFucker Mon 26-Oct-15 18:03:49

Op, have you asked him why he told a blatant lie about his age ?

HotNatured Mon 26-Oct-15 18:04:21


No, his photo is over google due to his job. There is no doubt the surname is his

I will have to confront if I see him again

ImperialBlether Mon 26-Oct-15 18:07:48

Out2Pasture, you're a straw-clutcher, aren't you? grin

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