I need some advice please mumsnet. Have namechanged for this.
This is tearing me apart. I am just beginning to come to terms with the fact I don't love DH anymore. It's been going on for some time now (2-3 years?) but it has only just occurred to me. Pretty much everything he does annoys me. I have no patience with him anymore, we just seem to be on different planets. He's very self-absorbed and quite immature but we've been together for well over two decades and these things never quite put me off him. But now I seem to have had enough. I need so much more than what we have. All I seem to do is trying to stop myself from leaving him. I go around the house muttering to myself "I can't do this anymore!" while picking up stuff he's left lying around or moved bits that I have spent a lot of time finding a place for. He is a loving dad to our DD (5) and they adore each other but he doesn't really take any responsibility for her in terms of discipline - he always wants me to play bad cop to his good cop.
We still have sex but most of the time I'm frustrated and fed up with even sharing a bed with him. I catch myself feeling a lot calmer when he's not at home - when he is I just feel tense and almost always find a reason to escape by going to bed. This is getting me down so much. I don't know what to do. I don't want to leave him because I don't want our DD to grow up in a broken home but the way I feel doesn't seem healthy either. He seems to have no idea how I feel even though I've brought it up a few times. He's in his own world when it comes to feelings and relationships. I don't think we are compatible any more. I don't think we're meant to be together. But I also feel guilty for being in this frame of mind.
What do I do? I'm mentally exhausted. Thanks for reading.
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I don't think I love DH anymore
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seaanemony · 26/10/2015 14:44
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