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Needy & clingy person

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zizio Sun 25-Oct-15 22:51:47

There is a lady whom I attend church with together. This lady also comes from the same country as me. She has a child who is the same age as mine. She ignored me first time around however when she found out I was building friendship with other people she leaned in and started talking. I made myself vulnerable by saying I was single parent in her presence. This seem to have triggered something as she went on to tell me that she had a teen pregnancy and had since remarried.

The 1st day she followed me around at a instant when I told her I was going to have a look at a new building the church had recently bought. Most of the time she waits for me but I am way too uncomfortable with her. She just hangs and because I speak to noone else its a great opportunity for her to come over and talk. Plus I think she feels its ok to come talk to me since we are from the same country. I prefer interacting with different people.

Today my daughter came around requesting to go around with her daughter. As I was speaking to her she was pointing fingers to me (as in authorative body language whilst talking). She also admitted being a very overprotective parent and asked her daughter to make her some tea.

My daughter is on the continued list for the secondary school where her daughter attends as it is a very good school but feeling a bit uncomfortable already but not sure if I have to compromise simply because of her. Her daughter is catholic but they move

Its really off the hook. I myself have come to know a lot about controlling people as I moved away from a long term abusive relationship with my ex. I am also in counselling.

There is an option for me to attend a different service earlier, which would immediately stop all this. My daughter will also get to meet new friends.

This is really giving me a bit of a headache. What can I do ?

CaoNiMao Mon 26-Oct-15 08:25:38

Attend the earlier service!

Floundering Mon 26-Oct-15 08:30:30

Attend the earlier service & without making a fuss, just always be busy or talking to someone else if your paths cross a cheery wave & walk away.

RedMapleLeaf Mon 26-Oct-15 08:41:00

I'm a bit confused by this thread. Did you just need to get it all of your chest?

DoreenLethal Mon 26-Oct-15 08:42:54

There is an option for me to attend a different service earlier, which would immediately stop all this.

Well, do that then. Problem solved.

Stinkilinky Mon 26-Oct-15 08:48:28

Your post has also confused me. I don't really see this as a problem, but that's just me. If you don't like the situation then attend an earlier service.

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