My parents divorced this year after 30 years of marriage. It wasn't s good marriage with dad having many affairs during this time. It took mum along time to realise he was never going to change. Eventually she came to her senses, booted him out & the divorce was finalised this year.
I have always had a complicated relationship with my parents. Mum never told anyone about the affairs but confided in me as a child. From a young age I knew what was going on. Dad would then spend his time convincing me why he did what he did. I never felt I had a good childhood as I grew up fast. Plus mum had days where she couldn't cope & I looked after my siblings.
Roll on to my mid 30's & their divorce. I have a young family & hubby works away a lot. I made a massive mistake a few years ago and moved closer to my family as I needed help with the children as hubby isn't consistently around. I now feel stuck with my parents & can't get away.
Dad is a depressive & a few weeks ago admitted he tried to take his own life after splitting up with his girlfriend. Now he is happy as he has moved onto a new girl friend. So my daily dealings with him are a emotional roller coaster.
Mum is bitter about the years of hurt dad has caused (understandable). She rings daily slagging him off to me. I think she is hurt I never cut him off, like my siblings.
I hate my life at the moment. Hubby is not around so I work all week & have the kids on my own in the evenings & weekend & no emotional support at all. Parents help with wrap around care & love the kids but I feel it has been at the sacrifice of my own happiness.
I know I need to challenge back but I just don't have the strength. I am tired & wish I could escape.
When hubby is here I feel like it's all about him. The kids miss him. He needs a break. Blah blah bollocks. He worked last night & is complaining about the noise the kids are making so can I take them out. No, I am tired too! Right now I don't give a shit it they are running around trashing the house. I have no energy for any of it anymore.
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Mikethenight2good · 25/10/2015 10:38
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