This has niggled me for ages! I have left ExH and have moved on, so I am already sorted and in a better place. But would love opinions on his families reaction to our split. ExH had lots of infidelities. 10 women that I know of. He tried to get it on with every single friend of mine, also my sister & my mum (!). He had lots of nights away from home. As I was leaving, he slept with my best friend (ex bf now of course). Anyway, and bearing in mind we were together 20 years, his whole family (his Mum, Dad and 3 sisters) have completely disowned me. Their stance is that he did some stuff that he shouldn't have done, but my crime is far worse as I broke up the family!
I think that as awful as it is, some families really do believe in the blood is thicker than water thing. When I broke up with DS1's Dad his Mum visited me and asked me to try and promise that no matter how awful things became that she wouldn't lose her Grandson. Almost 9 years later I still stop in when I go past for a cup of tea, she comes here for Christmas and birthdays, DS2 knows her as Nanna, it's the nicest possible relationship to hope for with an Ex MIL.
Sadly, your Ex's family aren't that way inclined. They undoubtedly are being harsh on you, but is it really much of a loss if they think so badly of you for breaking up what must have been a desperately unhappy marriage? Head up, shoulders straight and try to let it go. There's no better way to upset folk like that than to be happy and secure in your new life.
Standard pass the blame as no one in their family could be so awful.
They have to blame some one else and that's you. I suspect if they voiced any of this to friends then most will turn round and tell them the truth that you did not break up the marriage he did, you only moved on to protect yourself.
On the other hand be thankful you no longer have to waste any of you time with them.
You're lucky. Exmil told me I was a vicious jealous bitch for trying to break up my ex and his ow, despite the fact that he still lived in our family home and we were very much together and to add insult to injury, she's just had a major rant at me that I should have some sympathy for him that he has to pay rent aswell as maintenance.
They are messed up enablers you are better off out of it, I'd I could change my circumstances I would never see them again.
Well, as an ex-mil myself, you usually have to stand by your own child to some extent - you're stuck with them, after all, even if they're rotters! One of my exsonsinlaw I would not be able to be in the same room as, would not be able to speak to, would like to wreak painful vengeance upon. I'd manage to be civil, maybe even friendly, to other exsoninlaw, if I were to meet him, although it's taken a few years to forgive him, although I do understand his actions. However, I'm still FB friends with his mum, as is my son, although they're not as close as they used to be, of course. No kids involved in either relationship, tho, which makes a difference, and each marriage lasted less than 5 years. When there are children involved, then it is a totally different situation, and more people need to get a grip and behave like the caring adults they are supposed to be.