Sorry I'm a bit out of the game. New sexual partner after 3 years, never felt ready before. Lovely bloke enjoy his company makes me laugh sex is great! Apart from one thing....he doesn't shut up! He started telling me what he was doing, then what he'd like to do, now it's people are watching, people joining in....its too much. It really isn't my thing and I've asked him to tone it down but its putting me off. Am I a prude? Should I let him ramble on? Sorry if this is too much ??
Presumably you mean talking about people joining in rather than it actually happening clearly he likes dirty talk, is there anything you could talk about instead? I can see that talking about people watching might be disconcerting!
maybe get into it but in a sort of, 'Ooh, yes, there are people watching us... yes, that's Pam from next door, she's wearing a pair of really nice black Uggs, I think they were the TSV on QVC a few weeks back, mmm, they look really cosy, she normally wears Crocs which I always think look a bit unhygienic... mmm, and there's Barry the postman, I wonder if he's got that parcel I got the 'you were out' card for, he's really staring at us, oh no he's trying to get my attention because he's got a registered letter he needs me to sign for. Oooh, give it to me, Barry - yes, I've got a pen right here...'
* I do try to steer the conversation in another direction* I'm sorry but all I can imagine is something along the lines of "Mm yeah they are watching us now".....^you sure? The weathers not great maybe they didn't bother coming^
Yeah he does need to shut up a bit. I did laugh, OP, at the idea of you trying to steer the conversation in another direction during sex. I think you just need to tell him that it's not your thing and to please zip it.