Isn't that terrible? But, it's true. I like him as a person, he can be kind, funny, generous. But it's no 'great love'.
The sex life wasn't great from the start and now on the rare occasion it does happen, it's over very quickly and I always fake it. I don't feel I can really 'let myself go' with him. Though I have never really felt that. The sex with previous boyfriends was a lot better. He is not very demonstrative or affectionate.
We don't have any DC. Our clocks are ticking and our families keep asking us 'when?' but there is always a reason - I wonder if subconsciously I've not gone ahead with having them because I always knew we weren't truly compatible.
I want a partner who loves me unconditionally, wants the same things I do, and is someone I can rely on. I don't feel I can rely on him. I always have to remind him to do things, important things e.g. finances, even when they're nothing to do with me. I feel like I do the organising and the planning and thinking for the both of us. I want someone who can share the burden of this.
He has changed the goalposts about what he wants from the future - he is talking about wanting to live abroad (although with no definite plan), whereas I don't.
However, I can and will never get divorced at my own instigation - well not unless and until my lovely DParents are no longer with us. I would be mortified to admit that my lovely wedding (which cost them a fair bob) isn't working. I would be so embarrassed at letting them down.
I wonder how many of us there are out there who feel this way.
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If DH came home tonight and said, "I want to get divorced", I would feel relieved
AngelicaJolie · 19/10/2015 06:21
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