I sound horrible.
He has put quite a few stone on and is classed as obese. He has poor health because of this weight, bad hips and joints, always thirsty (because of his addiction to sugary drinks) can't play his sports any more.
He has got really lazy, won't go to the gym any more. It's a waste of a direct debit every month. Ive tried talking to him about what he is doing to his body as in higher chances of heart attack or diabetes and he always promises to do somthing about it.
I cook very healthy meals for him and meals to take to work so he isn't eating shit but come weekend he just gorges on crap. I just went down stairs and he was cooking a pack of noodles less than an hour after eating a huge Sunday dinner (he cooked it) and pudding and Ice scream he is Massively over eating and buying shit food in and giving it to our two year old (fucking sherbet dip, chocolate) I need him to take responsibility for his own health.
I don't fancy him any more and he knows as he always says 'you don't fancy me anymore' but I can't admit it as I don't want to hurt him and end up saying i do.
He is such a handsome bloke but I didn't choose to go out with someone that is nearly 20 stone. (That's sounds really mean)
I keep myself in shape, so I think he is being really selfish not to even try.
I don't want to leave because other than him not giving a shit about himself he is kind, generous, thoughtful, funny, loving, brilliant father I could write a million good points about him but I don't want to fall in to a relationship where I'm not sexually attracted to my lover.
We have talked about this a million times and now immat the point where you lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
I don't know what to say or do to make him realise he has to make a change for us both.
Any ideas?
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My DP has put a lot of weight on.
Cleansheetsandbedding · 18/10/2015 21:47
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