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OLD - brass neck!

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whataboutthisthen Sat 17-Oct-15 22:57:18

So, went on a date tonight, & this is a new one on me, not only did he turn up with NO MONEY WHATSOEVER AT ALL - couldn't even afford to buy himself a pint. He took me into a local (well known) dept store & asked me to buy him a (frivolous) non-essential household item costing £50!!! & he was fucking serious!!! shock Bare faced cheek of it! My head was screaming 'Are you fucking kidding me?' but instead I said 'errrr, no...sorry'.

Have you ever heard the like? Needless to say we'll not be meeting again.

Frostycake Sat 17-Oct-15 23:04:29

wow. Did he say why he'd turned up with no money?

I once arranged to meet someone for a walk on a lovely sunny Spring Sunday lunchtime. When I asked where he'd like to meet, he he said outside the local branch of Boots the Chemist as he needed to pick up a few things. I ssumed he'd do his shopping THEN meet me outside but no, he waited for me to arrive and then did his shopping with me in tow.

bigbumbrunette Sat 17-Oct-15 23:07:04

I once drove 30 miles to a date (he didn't drive which is normally a but off putting but I gave him a chance) and he told me he was skint and would I mind buying him a pint. I did but left when he asked me during conversation if, on our next date, I'd stick things up his bum.

BSites Sat 17-Oct-15 23:08:13

Picking up his prescription, Frosty?

whataboutthisthen Sat 17-Oct-15 23:09:57

Frosty, he just said he didn't have any - bit skint at the moment!

Bigbum omg, things up the bum? what exactly? hmm

whataboutthisthen Sat 17-Oct-15 23:12:38

I forgot to mention that he then walked me to a cash machine & asked me to take some money out so he had some money to spend for the evening & he'd pay it back another time hmm

Fuckitfay Sat 17-Oct-15 23:14:21

I need to know what household item and how did he explain not being able to buy a drink?

Muddlewitch Sat 17-Oct-15 23:15:58

I had one who spent the date talking about his ex and how he had a dreadful life because of her, including that he had a reasonably extensive criminal record that was all because of her 'tricks' and the fact that she had a new boyfriend who was a security guard in the local Tesco and so obviously had 'connections' that triggered a campaign against him by the Police.

He also kept asking to come back with for a 'night cap' (it was the afternoon) and literally followed me up the road 'just one quick night cap' over and over. He kept texting for months after, his poor ex, I can well imagine what the arrests were for.

What was the applicable op? How did he ask? shock

BeyonceRiRiMadonnna Sat 17-Oct-15 23:16:53

I forgot to mention that he then walked me to a cash machine & asked me to take some money out so he had some money to spend for the evening & he'd pay it back another time

If I had never done OLD I would think you're making it all up, but I believe you! OMFG....I'm dying with laughter, sorry OP!

Which website did you guys meet on? Did he know this was a date?? I'm just baffled and curious to know what HE thought, the TWAT!

whataboutthisthen Sat 17-Oct-15 23:26:02

Fuckitfay, I don't want to out the guy (& invite trouble to myself) but it was an item that you'd choose for personal enjoyment (don't get funny ideas). The sort of luxury you DON'T BUY if you're skint.

Muddle, he just came out with it, it was the first thing he said. He said it again & again & it was a bit embarrassing. I said I'd get the drinks & not to worry but the walk to a cashpoint freaked me out a bit. I stood my ground though & refused to use it.

Beyonce, I'm reluctant to name the website but it was mainstream. Yes, he knew full well it was a date. Quite frankly, I'm stunned. I thought the household item might be for my benefit but it turns out that no, it wasn't. It was for his benefit alone as I wasn't invited back! not that I'd have gone anyway

Horsemad Sat 17-Oct-15 23:28:47

Was it an iron OP???

whataboutthisthen Sat 17-Oct-15 23:30:06

An iron? That's not really a frivolous luxury

BeyonceRiRiMadonnna Sat 17-Oct-15 23:33:08

...but it was an item that you'd choose for personal enjoyment (don't get funny ideas). The sort of luxury you DON'T BUY if you're skint....

A coffee machine? I'm soooo curious What?!?!?!?

I'm still laughing.......

BlackAmericanoNoSugar Sat 17-Oct-15 23:42:15

I guess a posh cafetiere.

Frostycake Sat 17-Oct-15 23:45:48

BSites no, it was two deodorants, toothpaste and a stop at the aftershave counter for a spritzing session. Rather killed my ardour.

whataboutthisthen I can well believe it having done a lot of OLD in the past. I once had someone tell me he couldnt afford escorts any longer so was resorting to on line dating until he went into the priesthood. I kid you not. I kep in touch with him for 6 months by phone/email. he was bloody gorgeous

Frostycake Sat 17-Oct-15 23:49:58

<wracking my brain trying to think of a kitchen utensil used for personal enjoyment>

DisillusionedGoat Sun 18-Oct-15 00:14:53

A*very expensive* wooden spoon?grin

DisillusionedGoat Sun 18-Oct-15 00:16:48

A Le Cruset pan?

FishWithABicycle Sun 18-Oct-15 00:17:57

A widget for frothing the milk for a posh coffee?

OutToGetYou Sun 18-Oct-15 00:22:31

I had one once who texted me before the date that if I was going past a shop could I pick him up some Colgate toothpaste.

I texted "no, I don't buy brand names".

BeyonceRiRiMadonnna Sun 18-Oct-15 00:28:52

Loving how this has turned into a guessing game, LOL! OP please don't spoil it by telling us.

BitOutOfPractice Sun 18-Oct-15 01:05:56

Was it a magi mix? Me and the BF can't sleep till we know <misses point>

SilverNightFairy Sun 18-Oct-15 03:23:50

I still haven't gotten past BigBumBrunette and the request for back door play on the second "date"..

Baconyum Sun 18-Oct-15 03:38:44

OK he had a brass neck but where was your spine OP? Why the fuck did you stay?! I'd have binned as soon as he said he'd brought no money!

Phoenix69 Sun 18-Oct-15 05:50:01

Was it a griddle?

I am a 46 year old widower and one of my OLD dates within 10 minutes asked if my dead wife had life insurance. Then told me how much in debt she was. I then made my excuses and left. She messaged me for weeks saying we had an amazing connection.

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