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just found out his friend isn't just a friend # 2

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binders1 Fri 16-Oct-15 21:21:50

Binder army, please find me.

In summary found out 10 days ago OH has been having an affair for the 14 years we have been together and we have one DS 8 yrs. OW is someone he has been sleeping with since college. She is married with 2 dc' s and who knows OH could be biological father of child(re n). She is also someone we have been to lunches and dinners twice yearly where she has acted inappropriately. When questioned OH years ago he said I was mad and denied a relationship except friendship. Found porno photos of them over the decades in the loft.

I don't know what else to say as so much info was in thread 1. I have relied on the support of the old thread. I call them my binder army. Tomorrow is d day, he leaves the house or we do.

Joysmum Fri 16-Oct-15 21:23:26

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2481800-Just-found-out-his-friend-isnt-just-a-friend

Joysmum Fri 16-Oct-15 21:24:06

Best of luck for tomorrow x flowers

fourquenelles Fri 16-Oct-15 21:24:57

Was coming off the lurkers' benches to post the link to thread 1 but I see Joysmum has beaten me to it. Thinking of you Binder flowers

NettleTea Fri 16-Oct-15 21:25:13

good luck tomorrow

SmashleyHop Fri 16-Oct-15 21:26:38

De lurking to say how impressed I am with the way you are handling all this and I hope he finally acts like some semblance of a man and leaves.

tableanadchairs Fri 16-Oct-15 21:28:45

If he won't move out is there space is their enough space for you to ask your DSis or DM to come and stay for a while?
That may make his living at home intolerable and then he may move out?

loveyoutothemoon Fri 16-Oct-15 21:33:42

I agree, could rotweiller stay for a short while. Sounds like a good idea. He needs to take you seriously regarding you and DS staying in the house.

VimFuego101 Fri 16-Oct-15 21:33:43

That's a good idea, tableandchairs. Crossing fingers that he leaves without a fuss.

loveyoutothemoon Fri 16-Oct-15 21:34:48

Could rotweillers OH be there tomorrow too?

binders1 Fri 16-Oct-15 21:35:32

Thank you joysmum for inserting the link, I've not done a thread before now and wasn't sure how to continue it.

Friendlystories Fri 16-Oct-15 21:36:34

We're with you Binder, your army won't desert you don't worry smile

Zetetic Fri 16-Oct-15 21:36:41

Have saved your new thread. Really hoping tomorrow goes well for you.

Hope that your sister can help scare him off tomorrow. Try to get a bit of sleep.

OneFlewOverTheChickenHutch Fri 16-Oct-15 21:37:10

Good luck for tomorrow, I sincerely hope that he has a teeny piece of decency left in him to at least put his child's needs first. flowers

tableanadchairs Fri 16-Oct-15 21:37:11

Can Binder's army be called upon to pay a visit or 2 or 3 or 4 ...........grin now that would seriously piss him off

loveyoutothemoon Fri 16-Oct-15 21:38:28

I'll be there! grin

SymphonyofShadows Fri 16-Oct-15 21:40:56

Another delurker here wishing you well for tomorrow. Really hope you get to stay in your house thanks

LittleRed28 Fri 16-Oct-15 21:41:15

Delurking - Binder, you have been amazing so far and I wish you all the luck in the world for tomorrow flowers

springydaffs Fri 16-Oct-15 21:41:42

Present and correct! <stands to attention>

NumbBlaseCold Fri 16-Oct-15 21:41:55

Good luck Binder, I hope your solicitor helps you.

I hope he leaves tomorrow.

If he does not I would see your solicitor again.

BathtimeFunkster Fri 16-Oct-15 21:43:51

Reporting for duty!

acatcalledjohn Fri 16-Oct-15 21:44:34

Reporting for duty.

wine

NoMoreGrimble Fri 16-Oct-15 21:44:53

Sending my best for tomorrow.

acatcalledjohn Fri 16-Oct-15 21:45:16

Snap!

FoxesSitOnBoxes Fri 16-Oct-15 21:45:55

Good luck flowers

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