I started dating my boyfriend about six months ago. We both ended long term relationships this year and whilst we were not looking for anything serious when we meet, it became clear in from the very start that our relationship was heading towards something that is serious and most likely long term. We haven't had any disagreements until very recently. For personal reasons I will be relocating from London to New York City in the next couple of months. Luckily my boyfriends job requires him to spend 50% of his time in NYC and because of this he has a flat in the city. I have been very stressed about finding a new job in the city and finding someplace to live. I have wanted to find a job before moving but have found it difficult to interview whilst living in a another country, and my boyfriend has thus suggested that I move next month to make the job search easier. I have told him repeatedly that I am not keen to move before finding a job because I don't want to use up all of my savings on rent and wouldn't feel comfortable renting a flat/or a room until I have a steady income.
He recently suggested that I stay at his place until I found a job and was able to save up money. This instantly removed a lot of stress. However, when we later on about it, he started to backtrack and said that I could stay with him for a few days and then rent a room from someone. He said that he thinks it will be unhealthy for us to be living together for a longer period of time so early in our relationship and doesn't want to jeopardise what we have.
I am feeling really hurt and very stressed. I don't want to permanently live with him either, but it would be nice for him to let me stay at his place for a few weeks whilst I sort things out. I explained to him how I was feeling and that I felt he didn't understand because he has a secure life (great job, nice flat, very high income) and I a starting all over again and could really use some support whilst I get on my feet.
What are your opinions? Am I in the wrong here?
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Am I in the wrong or is he??
bluebutterfly29 · 16/10/2015 19:29
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