Been together 4 years. Posted about him on here numerous times. (Constant walking on egg shells, hypocritical behaviour, controlling, patronising, aggressive, bullying, emotional abuse ..... )
Well you guys told me over and over again to LTB. Well after completing a 13 hour shift and coming home to yet another out of proportion row in which he refused to make up and actually said "right that's it, we're arguining all night now!" (Yes, seriously) I had an epithany. What the actual fuck am I doing????
So we've officially split up.
Last week I enquired about two rented houses - so it's not a sudden split decision. I've now emailed them back to organise viewings.
Funnily enough my work place put a shit load of money into my bank today too which wasn't expected. I took it as a sign.
Please guys, talk me through coping mechanisms for the next few weeks/months x
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My fiancé and I have just split up.
ConfusedMuchly · 25/09/2015 22:34
Wasn't expected but was owed/earned? Don't spend anything you are not sure about!
Do you have a joint bank account?
Take time to gather paperwork and arrange copies and don't forget to eat and look after yourself.
You don't need to communicate with him at all until your head is a bit cleare so get your self some space and some RL support.
Good luck.
You may find yourself going all lonesome and wondering if you have done the right thing. Keep this and previous threads to keep your backbone stiff.
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