I don't know if this is a case of me being over-sensitive or whether I am right in feeling fed up about the way my parents treat me.
Its a petty problem compared to most on here... ive just felt down about it today and not sure if i need to get a grip!
i live around 2 hours from my parents. everytime i organise to meet them, they come up with various excuses last minute:
- they 'forget' we have made plans and say i must drive to them (i already do this now and then anyway) and that they wont meet where we originally agreed (despite it being a half hour drive for them)
- say get to the venue between 1 and 2 hours late
- they change plans half an hour before (sometimes by the time i have already left).
when i go to see them, they will often not be in, or change plans last minute. a few months ago i booked time off work as they wanted us to 'go away as a family' and i was reluctant to do it as it was far for me to travel, then two days before they told me they had decided not to go away anymore... if i hadnt mentioned it i doubt i would have been told until the day.
im by no means 'attached' to my family in a way where i feel i cant be apart from them, but i do feel guily when they tell me i dont see them enough etc...and then why i try to, they seem to treat me like crap. neither of them would treat their friends this way, so i dont understand it.
these things have become a common theme, and i feel conflicted because my parents arent bad people, and i know they care for me, but this attitude where they obviously couldnt give a shit about messing up my weekends/having a go at me for no reason, has started to get to me. this time i have made my own excuses before anything has the opportunity to be arranged, as i need a few weeks off from it all. we only see each other once or twice a month, but there is always a problem. they both work part time whereas i get home at gone 9pm each night, and it's like they have no understanding of this - i want to enjoy my weekend not spend it being messed around by my family or having to deal with a drama.
am i being unfair here? is this just family stuff we all have to deal with and i should get over it?!
thanks in advance :)