Hi All
I'm hoping for some MIL advice. I'm really not sure how to handle my MIL anymore and it's got to the point where I'm dreading the birth of my first child because I'm worried she'll spoil it. DH is her youngest child and the only one she has contact with (she had no contact with her other 2 boys) and therefore she puts a huge amount of pressure on him to be 'a good son'. If he doesn't do exactly what she wants she'll throw a tantrum and make him feel ridiculously guilty, ending in him usually doing what she wants in the end anyway. DH is 8 years older than me and his parents are in their 70s, whereas mine are in their 50s and very laid back and supportive of any decisions me and DH make, whereas his Mum is often critical of our decisions and will ALWAYS make her opinions known. In addition she makes it perfectly clear that she thinks I'm 'common' and will often correct my grammar or tell me how I should hold a knife or how to behave in certain circumstances. She has ruined many 'special' days over the last few years, such as my birthday or when we've spent Xmas with my family by making my husband feel guilty about not including her. DH then gets upset and sulks for days causing us to have blazing rows about how his Mum has yet again spoilt things. I live 120 miles from my family and on average see them once every 6-8 weeks, yet MIL will still sulk when we go to visit them. We see her at least once a week (for dinner at her house) and often we'll pop in to see her or take her out at the weekend. (Not because we want to but just to keep her happy). My dilemma is this.....with the birth of our first child approaching I feel extremely bitter that this woman will probably get to see our baby before my family and going forward will get to see the baby a lot more than my family. She has also threatened to come to the hospital whilst I'm in labour so she can wait to see the baby. This is already stressing me out and I've still got 10 weeks to go. It's also annoying me that she's telling people that this is her first grandchild...it's not...she has 2 others that she's never met, her choice!! Am I being unreasonable and hormonal??
Thanks in advance.
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Piglet333 · 14/09/2015 09:46
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