And who wants it more, you or your partner? And how long have you been together?
Feel free to expand on this - I'm interested in this topic as for the first time in my life as I want it more often than my partner - which is, slightly worrying so just wondering what the ratio is out there!
Wowzers! I'm definitely not doing something right. I'm in the same boat OP my other half has recently lost all interest in having sex. We're currently 7 weeks (and I'm most definitely counting!!) Currently trying to work out if I can stay in a sex less relationship. We've been together 4 years and it used to be so good not sure if it's just a phase or he's gone off me? Either way it's frustrating
Glad I'm not the only one then Desperate - we've only been together just over a year and a half and we only see each other at weekends because of distance and work - but sometimes it doesn't happen at all over the weekend. It's on MY mind most of the weekend and would personally like it every night we're together, but to not have sex at all during our weekend together is a bit depressing! I'm not sure if he just has a much lower libido than I or that he's just not as attracted to me as he was - but yes, it's frustrating
Been together 10 years, it's up and down (fnar fnar), but currently we're in a bit of a lull, and I want it more often than he does. It happens less than once a week at the moment, maybe 2 or 3 times a month.
I think ever since I moved in it's been about once a month. He says I think about it too much and relationships are about more than that, which is true but equally if you aren't having sex you're just friends who live together?! I guess it's like everything when you don't have it you want it more but myself esteem is on the floor and I spend most of my days thinking I'm repulsive as he doesn't come near me in the bedroom
Do you think mentioning it, and saying the lack of sex is an issue, puts more pressure on the other person and makes it worse? I feel like saying something - but worry that as soon as I do, I create an issue thus pressure
I've tried both OP. The times I have sulked and brought it up he's all like begging for it makes me want it even less so I feel like I can't win and worry if I don't show that I'm concerned and upset we'll never do it again and just become one of those couples who are together but have seperate lives. I try and put myself in his shoes and think how it would be if it was me who didn't want it and I can see he would be called all sorts for pesting me but its so hard. I think we are led to believe men think and want sex all the time so don't know what to do when this doesn't happen