Way back when I first signed up to Tinder I started talking to a young guy. At the time he said he wanted a no-strings relationship as he is working full time, skint, sharing a flat and studying for his masters degree and can't put a lot into a relationship.
On the basis of that, plus him being a decade younger I turned down a date when he asked me out.
However, we stayed in contact and he became quite a friend. We chatted through my dates and his and he was always been a bit flirty and frequently asked me out, but not asking me for naked photos like most of them and we just got to know each other a bit.
I recently was a witness to an accident and was quite shaken up and he was really there for me, taking me through it and to be honest in many ways seemed more mature than the men 15 years older I have been dating. Talking to him on the phone that day made me feel safe and I decided I wanted to meet him.
I agreed to meet him finally and we ended up in bed together. Prior to that I was really just enjoying the attention and wasn't really thinking anything would ever happen but it just felt really normal when we were together.
He was very romantic, affectionate and we had a great chat into the night about something interesting and he's clever and I really like him. Also possibly the best sex I have ever had.
Compared to the men older than him he was more of gentleman, is not broken down by baggage, has bags more energy and he just generally made me feel fantastic.
He's too young for me I feel, I mean, I am a Mum with a child and own my own company and he is just starting out in life and shares a flat and goes on lads weekends and lives a very different life to me. That said he's not a young Romeo or anything - quite studious and I'd imagine not a lothario.
He has said he wants to continue seeing me and I don't know what to do. What he is oferring me is time together when I don't have DC, and he says he is happy with whatever I can give, dinner dates, cuddles in the cinema, him making me breakfast in bed, cuddles and great sex but not a relationship.
I do want to meet someone that's "forever", to have a family and hopefully another baby and he said he was fine if I kept looking.
I feel like he is being very honest with me, and in a sense I quite like the idea of a no-pressure affair but if I am honest with myself I want to see him, would actually like to date him if age / circumstances weren't a barrier and have taken quite a liking to him and I am not sure if i am making a mistake and will end up hurt or will end up hurting him.
Is this asking for trouble and should I knock it on the head?
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Should I continue with this younger man or is it a recipe for disaster?
mrscleaver · 12/09/2015 21:23
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