My marriage of 20 years is over. I don't love him anymore. We have a teenage daughter who isn't aware (I think) of our problems. Husband wants to keep trying, but I know I can't feel the same way about him again. I've also met someone else.
We have put our house up for sale, the proceeds are needed to pay off some debt and will leave us with nothing to start our new lives.
The thing is,I don't know what I need to do. I'm not bothered about divorcing at the moment, neither of us can afford solicitor fees. I just want to sell the house, pay off the debt and go.
Do I have to wait til the house is sold? When do I apply for tax credits on my own etc? I'm working part time at present, I don't earn enough to live on, due to health reasons I can't work full-time.
I'm really stressed and can barely sleep, trying to work out when to do things and feel like I'm just sat here waiting to move on. I can't tell dd because I don't want to upset her whilst we are all under one roof. I haven't even told my husband that it's definitely over, because I want to keep a peaceful atmosphere until the house is sold and I can make some definite plans.
Please don't judge, I'm trying to keep everything peaceful for as long as possible for dds sake.
I don't know how I'm going to rent somewhere on my earnings, a lot of landlords don't seem to take people on benefits. I can move in with the person I am seeing on a temporary basis until I find somewhere, as I'll be moving away from the area, but then want to find my own place. Any ideas how to start, will I be entitled to help with rent? I earn between £400 and £900 a month depending on the work load (I'm self employed).
Thanks for any advice.
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