I've never posted here before, and have name changed to do so. I never thought I'd feel the need to, but there's some uncomfortable thoughts going round my mind regarding my marriage. I don't know if it's a blip, it could well be, and I'm not ready to give up on it yet, but just felt the need to write it down,get some perspective. First thing, I have never felt in danger or threatened at all. It's just a few things building up.
1 - disciplining our DS in ways that I find inappropriate - shouting in quite a harsh way towards a 2 year old. No physical harm at all. If I protest I'm "undermining" him, yet it doesn't go both ways. He doesn't respect my gentler ways of disciplining.
2 - I'm currently pregnant (very tough pregnancy physically) and unsure about breastfeeding. I did last time but hated it, and my view this time was I would see how it went, take each day at a time. I also have a toddler at home, so I worryit'll be tougher to breastfeed. That makes me a bad mother, because bottle feeding is only done by those who don't really care about their children.
3 - he sometimes talks to me like I'm stupid. I'm not. I know I'm not.
4 - appears to have no faith in my ability to cope after the birth. Wants to get his parents round every day. Wants to get a nanny. I think I can cope, or at least I know I would if I felt I wasn't being watched and judged. It's like he's waiting for me to fall apart so he can be right.
I just don't know what to think. We always had a good marriage, a very communicative and supportive one. I hope it's a blip, but I'm just not sure what I'd say if a friend told me all of the above.
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Are these red flags?
MissyB60 · 29/08/2015 22:25
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