Myself and my husband have been together for 17 years, we have 3 children and have been married 5 years, 6 months ago he told me he didn't love me anymore and wasn't happy etc etc. He hasn't moved out as yet as we have mulled over things, he has said a number of times he will give it a go but in reality hasn't really done anything out about it. I'm devastated and don't want us to separate, we have a comfortable life, I have 2 jobs, he works full time. I feel as if he tells me he will make a go but then doesn't actually and now after him saying he will give it a go only 2 days ago, he has dropped the bombshell again today that we are separating and we need to tell the kids. I keep asking him how he can say he will give it a go and then 2 days later change his mind, he has done this now a few times & then we go back to just 'living together' as friends. I keep saying to him that if we are going to 'make a go of it' then we need to actually do this over a longer period of time, however, he says that he just doesn't feel anything for me and finds it hard to be close to me. The thing is he is now saying that we should tell the kids (age 11,9,6) that its a joint decision that we have made and have decided its the best solution for both of us so we can lead a happy life. I'm not happy with telling the kids this because I don't want this separation, I want us to stay together and work at the relationship, he doesn't want this! Any views greatly appreciated because i'm in a pretty bad way at the minute. Thanks
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My Husband is leaving & says I should tell the kids its a joint decision!!
lovemykids1 · 27/08/2015 14:47
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