I posted a while ago about being finally out of a bad situation with an ex.
Yesterday I received a text from the bank saying he changed his address and I contacted him once more (first time in 8 month) asking him to sign the paperwork to close the joint account as I keep getting updates.
He never replied before and always ignored all contact. But apparently the information that I was informed about his address changes and phone number changes etc made him want to react as I finally am getting released from this account.
Now here my question:
The reason I assume he is reacting is because after a car crash and problems with his mom (see old post if needed) he ran away in the middle of the night. leaving me without income (7 month recovery) without food without anything and having used up the joint account (he barely ever paid his share).
He did not pay the remaining months rent (total 475)
Never responded to messages
Never paid the wedding costs (all had to be canceled)
No pain compensation
Never paid His private loan (I had 2 jobs to support us) of 3848 that I sadly cannot prove (I was dumb enough to trust a fiance) which is made up of unpaid rent, unpaid bills, unpaid costs for all sorts of food car payments etc
He also never paid damages caused by his father, himself and the reckless behaviour of locking 2 dogs in a kitchen without enough water and food for 2 weeks (later he locked them in a garage for 2 days terpentine and all was there).
He responded to the joint account message within hours and it is closed. But no response to my request for my remaining money (obviously).
All I can prove is the mistreatment of the dogs (RSPCA was called out by neighbours)
The 475£ and that is it, sadly UK law does not seem to include the fact that he has to pay the complete wedding after tricking me into thinking he would go through with it.
Now my question:
I am in a happy relationship, my dogs have recovered and mostly so have I. It is a massive money loss of which I cannot fully prove much and his mother is nasty enough to make up lies (and play vitcim) and claim she witnessed him paying etc. Shall I just drop it? I cannot get a lawyer for free (again obviously as they do hard work and need paying for it) and was told even if i'd win i would pay a lot in lawyer fees.
Drop it and stay angry at the fact that he got away with this?
I wanted to drop it and get over it already (he left April 2014) until he finally replied to the joint account and my hopes were he'd be honest enough to pay me his dept back...
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justonepost · 21/08/2015 18:02
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