Don't know to start this so suppose i'll just type and I hope it makes sense.
BIL phoned me this morning in tears, saying what is missing from his life is children/family and has now given my sis an ultimatum of she needs to lose weight to be a healthish weight as she is morbidly obese in order to give them the best possible chance of becoming pregnant. He said this conversation had been going on for many years and they have been TTC for over 10 years and now getting into their mid 30s.
My sis who is a few years older than me has always been big and both sis and BIL are big people and both come from big families. Whereas as BIL can lose weight quickly though not by a maintainable way, ie. eating 1 meal, cambridge etc he has never kept it off, my sister isnt the same and we arent the type of people who cant eat all day.
Sister has previously suffered 2 miscarriages. BIL has asked me to speak to my sister, as he says he loves her very very much and but wants children in his life and wants both of them to give being able to have children and even to go down IVF a chance of having and doesn't want it to be the thing he regrets in 15/20 years time.
BIL has asked me to have a talk with my sister but although we get on we never really have emotional chats and just a bit lost. Plus I feel a bit of hypocrite as I got pregnant without trying (though had just gone a healthier diet) and sister last pregnancy was a few weeks behind mine before she had her mc.
Should I ask my sister, what does she want? Does she want kids? Does she want to lose weight?
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BIL confided in me now I need to speak to Sis
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