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Son 1st girlfriend?

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byourself · 16/08/2015 22:50

My 16 yo son recently started ordering posh shaving cream, new haircut, moisturiser, now he has even learned to cook..did a very good 3 course meal for my sister and her husband..when I asked if there was any reason he has made some changes he said "no just experimenting" while undermining his denial by going scarlet. ..awww.. so are my suspicions likely to be right..the mobile phone has made detection much harder since my day. Seriously will be delighted if I am right as he's a shy but loving and very well adjusted boy/man

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DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 16/08/2015 23:08

Get ready to console him. A lot. Not that he'll let you unless the cruelty is unusually inventive. I worry about some of DD's exes, although the way she chucked the last one was quite funny: "Don't talk to me again or my Dad will use you for ingredients".

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cozietoesie · 16/08/2015 23:12

As long as he's showering more and not wearing fragrances sufficient to knock you out at 30 feet, relax. (But I agree - be prepared for the 'being dumped' stage.)

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byourself · 16/08/2015 23:20

Well given there is no evidence of anyone at all..thought the being dumped thing might be a bit premature..He goes to an all boys school (his father's idea) so not sure where he would have met someone..hmm the teenage dumping mentioned actually sounds rather cruel. Am beginning to hope he isn't romantically involved..

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CointreauVersial · 16/08/2015 23:20

My 15yo DS has now clocked up seven months with his GF. He is currently on holiday with her family, then when they get back they are both coming on holiday with us.

She brings out the best in him! He's so polite and grown-up when she's here, and she won't stand for any of his usual stropiness or rudeness in our direction.

The other day she commented on his fuzzy face, so he made DH give him a shaving lesson. My little Pumpkin is all grown up.

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DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 16/08/2015 23:25

Oh, they spend their free time chucking and being chucked. As for sexuality, I told DD a long time ago there's no moral content to it. Respect and kindness, that's what's important.

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byourself · 16/08/2015 23:31

I am fairly sure he is not gay but wouldn't be any less happy if he were. I don't think too many if any of his school friends have had any romantic entanglements. They seem to just prefer music and films. I don't know now maybe I should be doing what MIL did with DH and do everything possible to stop him getting with someone for as long as possible..

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goddessofsmallthings · 16/08/2015 23:38

Aww @ cooking. What a lovely lad you've raised, by, and he's hygienic too - extra bonus points for you .

Soap & Glory have stopped making men's toiletries which is a great shame as they are ideal for teenagers but there are some to be found on eBay if you're thinking of treating him.

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cozietoesie · 16/08/2015 23:43

...ideal for teenagers...

You mean discreet ? (They seem to pour them on as if the end of the world was nigh.)

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byourself · 16/08/2015 23:51

Ok I will look up those products. .Cointreau 15 & 7 months with gf??? Sounds very advanced. I was most shocked with the cooking tbh. He has apparently started taking it in turns to cook with his friends and they mark each other like that tv programme..better than drugtaking I suppose

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CointreauVersial · 17/08/2015 00:25

Well, he's not far off 16 now, just hoping it doesn't distract from GCSEs.

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sugar21 · 17/08/2015 00:39

My dd1 is 15 and has had a few boyfriends and the current one she has been seeing for getting on 7 months. She lives with her Dad who thinks its fine to let her have her current bf in the house at all hours of night. I do not approve.
Spoken to her father about this but all he says is you're only young once!. GCSEs are looming and I will be having a chat to both of them next weekend when they visit me

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byourself · 17/08/2015 01:09

He just did his GCSEs..hoping.for good results next week. I can't imagine where he would have met this for now imaginary young woman, maybe the come dine with me social club is a front. .

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goddessofsmallthings · 17/08/2015 03:13

Cookery is the new cocaine - we've got to get this message out there, by

Your ds sounds wonderful and I reckon he'd love Soap & Glory's shave gel and a daily double gift set in his Christmas stocking. I was peeved to discover that S&G had a sale on their website to shift the last of their men's toiletries which I missed out on but, as I've said, there are a few items available on eBay which are well worth investing in as your nostrils won't be assailed by hideous Lynx like fragrances if you have to use the bathroom shortly after he's been it.

If he's using his pocket money to buy manly eau de toilettes, tell him to check out Milton-Lloyd's range which is cheap as chips on eBay (one seller is knocking them out at £18.25 for 6 inc p&p) and possibly even cheaper in your local shops. M-L's Homme 331 is virtually indistinguishable from Carolina Herrera's heavenly 212 for men with the added advantage that even if he uses half of the 50ml bottle before he goes out, he won't come back reeking of it.

'ideal for teenagers' does indeed equal 'discreet' cozie, as so few of them ascribe to the principle that less is more.