I've met a man after being single for a decade. I've a 4 year old DD, who was conceived after a 'fling' with a friend. He is not on the scene and I haven't actually had a relationship since my divorce 10 years ago. I'm 31.
The man i have met is wonderful; he is kind, generous and thoughtful. He sends me books i will like through the post and gives me rose plants. I met him OLD about 18 months ago but we have only met up in the last few weeks. Originally he said he didn't want to date anyone with children but we kept chatting as friends. I honestly believe he really is one of the good guys!
we have met 3 times (lunch, then dinner then theatre) and he has made it clear he would like things to progress. The thing is, I'm not particularly sure how i feel about it. I don't find him particularly attractive but i really like him. It came to me the other day that I'm not sure if the attraction thing is due to me actually being very apprehensive about having an intimate relationship with anyone again. I'm about 4 stone overweight and it has been such a long time.
I don't know how to continue. Do I carry on and hope that mutual respect and friendship will grow with regards to the attraction or is it a none starter!? I've only ever gone for men i have been madly attracted too (not that it ends well!) so is it possible for it to slowly develop? How do i get past the fear part of this!!?