We have been FWB for 4 years but I no longer want a sexual relationship with him.
We are really great friends but the issue is that he has always wanted us to be a proper couple, but I never have and have made that clear. He said how about 3 days/nights a week because that would be better than nothing. I don't want that either.
I love my space and freedom. I was married very miserably, for 23 years and am happy not being in a relationship for the foreseeable future.
I am really worried about broaching the subject though, as there is such a mis-match between how I feel and how he feels. He will be hurt and upset and try to bargain with me. I have been going along with things for the time being because I hate the thought of hurting him. I can't think of a non-hurtful way of saying it though and I really need to tell him.
I have no idea if it's possible to stay friends in future. I would hate to lose him as a friend, but if he is going to be utterly miserable in a totally platonic relationship, then I will obviously accept that. Has anyone any ideas how to word things gently and kindly because I'm struggling? And also how to stand firm and not succumb to desperate pleading/bargaining/guilt tripping attempts?
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How to tell FWB that I just want to be friends?
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TheseventeenthSixteen · 16/08/2015 17:54
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