Please give me advice before I blow a potentially lovely relationship. I have been separated from my STBXH only 7 months but in reality the marriage had been over for years. I met a guy OLD 10 weeks ago. Everything is going great and I have high hopes. Both us us have baggage but we have been very supportive of each other. We live more than an hour apart and he is a single parent to late teens one of whom has serious health issues. As a result we don't see each other as much as we'd like (maybe 2 evenings a week).
I understand his family commitments and that his kids come first. I have been very patient and accommodating about last minute changes of plans and he is very appreciative of that.
We had arranged to spend the day together tomorrow. He then had opportunity to pursue his hobby in the morning so asked if I minded if he arrived in pm. He has very little time to himself and works hard so I was happy to agree to that.
He was due to take DDS 19 to dinner tonight or we would have been together tonight. She cancelled at the very last minute and asked him to take her out tomorrow instead. He has agreed to that so I am now left on my own tomorrow.
I feel quite let down and upset. Of course I understand that his DDS comes first but she is an adult; cancelled on him this evening and I think he could have just told her that he already has plans for tomorrow.
I told him that I was going to make other plans for tomorrow and I received the text 'okay xxx'. That's the most abrupt communication I have ever had so he is either annoyed or upset.
Am I being unreasonable? I feel that I have been very patient. Sometimes the cancellations have been completely understandable but I feel tomorrow he should have put us first.
I tend to get a bit wound up and I'm worried that I may end the relationship on a whim and regret it. On the other hand I don't always want to be last on his list of priorities. I had that for decades in my marriage.
In every other way he is lovely. He is kind and treats me very well and there is great chemistry between us.
Should I be more patient?
Sorry this is long.
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Advice please before I blow a potential relationship!
Colourmylife1 · 16/08/2015 00:49
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