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Talking about hot women with his friends

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sttf01 Sat 15-Aug-15 21:42:17

Is it ok for DH's to text their mates about all the hot women they see/work with/waitresses etc?
I've found some messages on my OH's phone (I went to Google something & it was there staring at me) and I'm really upset at how disrespectful it is.

Confused1282 Sat 15-Aug-15 21:43:53

I find it disrespectful, I think men maybe talk together but I think it's very disrespectful!

flux500 Sat 15-Aug-15 21:49:23

I think it's one of those things you'd have rather not seen. I reckon lots of guys do this and it's just lighthearted 'lads banter' but it's better when they are discrete with it. I'm not saying it's right but it is pretty normal.

sttf01 Sat 15-Aug-15 21:55:41

He seemed to have a whole stream of "banter" with one friend about it. Thing is, OH's messages were much more enthusiastic than his friend's or brother's responses...

Confused1282 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:03:04

Tell him you don't appreciate it, I'd be really pissed off like you.

flux500 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:03:34

Hmm that puts a different light on it and I would be raging! What kind of things is he saying?

sttf01 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:06:06

Stuff like "you should see the talent in my office today", "so many fit arses", "i was in a meeting with a Tall blonde Dutch bird today who was so fit I nearly fell offt chair"

Confused1282 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:07:41

Er imagine if you were texting your mate saying the same! Bet he wouldn't be happy. I don't understand men?

FujimotosElixir Sat 15-Aug-15 22:07:43

I think it's the 'don't shit on your own doorstep' rule. If .y husband was oogling via text a woman he saw/worked with everyday then that's not OK. A randomer/celeb , just one of those things.

BertrandRussell Sat 15-Aug-15 22:11:27

Do you want to be with someone who thinks about women like that? That's the question you need to be asking yourself.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Sat 15-Aug-15 22:11:53

Well hands up. Who would want their dp/dh to call another women sexy, because I certainly wouldn't and if that makes me a jealous possessive bitch then. I'll wear the cap.

Confused1282 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:12:37

I agree with BertandRussell there, disrespectful...

sttf01 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:36:34

Told him he was a disrespectful, pathetic twat/letch

Confused1282 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:37:04

What did he say?

sttf01 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:40:28

Said he was sorry and that it was just banter with his friend and brother going back years....he would never cheat on me, flirt at work bla bla bla...

Confused1282 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:43:12

Arsehole eh? Why are they such pricks?....

sttf01 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:46:07

Semen for brain cells...

mmmuffins Sat 15-Aug-15 22:46:47

I wouldn't want to be with a man who spoke about women that way, it is very objectifying.

sttf01 Sat 15-Aug-15 22:49:29

I'm not sure I do either

Smilingforth Sat 15-Aug-15 23:08:23

Speak to him and tell him how you feel.

sykadelic Sun 16-Aug-15 00:10:56

In my opinion it's not normal for someone in a loving relationship to send those kinds of texts, especially to be the one initiating them.

I may say a guy is hot, but it would be a passing thing as it happens with the other person there with me. It wouldn't be something I was thinking about so strongly that I felt like I should have a lengthy conversation about it. Let alone a text exchange.

What is the point in pointing out someone who's hot when the other people aren't there to see it? I don't get it.

BertrandRussell Sun 16-Aug-15 00:17:22

It's not normal for an man not in a loving relationship to talk about women like that!

CatMilkMan Sun 16-Aug-15 19:30:05

He was having a private conversation, I'm so glad my DP isn't like so many women on this thread.

Tryharder Sun 16-Aug-15 20:39:24

He sounds about 13.

What a faff to text his friends merely to comment on a random woman.

How can he even be bothered?

I would be questioning if I wanted to stay married to someone so sad.

WallyBantersJunkBox Sun 16-Aug-15 20:48:16

Next time you are DTD start vocalising clear and loud that you are closing your eyes and imagining that he is Keith from the bought ledger department who has an arse you could crack walnuts with and what you suspect to be frozen broccoli down his work slacks....

It's only a bit of banter....hmm

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