About 3 years ago I found out my husband cheated on me, i was furious and we had a showdown and he promised not to again. I was terrifired of leaving so stayed. Less thank a year later, he was at it again. I took half hearted steps to move out but terrified and listened to his promises and stayed.
A few months ago i realised how unhappy i was and it was as if the marriage had stalled. My life had stalled and i was not moving on. I decided then that i hhad to go. Within months i'd moved out to my new place and love it now. I feel free, relieved and happy. TBH there weere other things wrong with the marriage.
The talking about moving out and actual moving out all happened at breakneck speed inside 6 six weeks. I intend to divorce and move on. I also went on a dating site as i was feeling so lonely. I met up with a man yesterday and we spent more than 6 hours together without a lul in conversation. He's single and knows my backstory. We really like each other and have a second date planned tomorrow. We really hit it off. He is the loveliest most genuine man i've met in a long time. We're very similar in outlook and ideas on life. He has such wonderful values and character and he's seen so much of the world and bit like a child in his awe of it. He lives life to the full. All fo this is very attrractive to me, and i do fancy him. He is very different to my husband. I stopped fancying my husband sometime ago and we hadnt had sex in 6 years or so. Btw, his cheating pre-dates our lack of sex life. clearly there's a lot of detail i'm not saying here about the marriage because for me it's over.
He is very clearly into me, saying how much he loved our date yesterday, spending time with me, and texting me quite early this morning and checking on what i wanted to do tomorrow. Although i am very into him, i don't want it to be a rebound relationship. Hurting him in the process. How will i know what it is? I really want to be with him now but not if that'll stop us from having a good shot at a good realtionship.
What can i do? How do i figure me out and how do i progress this? is this all too soon?
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Confusedfedup · 15/08/2015 11:34
IThought has given sound advice. Don't start planning your future ....yet! 
Enjoy the companionship, the fun, laughter and attention. Just join in for the ride and see where it takes you.
i was been diagnosed with psychological-related vaginismus
When you find the right man, and the time is right, that has a chance of sorting itself
Just practice saying, "I am not ready for that level of intimacy yet". It's your body and your rules. But try not to put yourself and him into any sort of intimate situation that might lead him on and then you decide it isn't the right time for you. (Did I explain that correctly?)
If you think you MIGHT be ready for intimacy then you should be able to have an honest discussion with him about your fears and diagnosis. He will be happy with cuddles, snogging (and a fumble) if he truly understands and can support you. Would you be able (and happy) to finish him with a hand/blow job if he becomes aroused by you?
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for you, honey, - I hope Mr Perfect stays unblemished and that you have an enjoyable outing with him today. 
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