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Police Domestic Abuse officer

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Garlick Thu 13-Aug-15 20:58:30

The other day I reported a DV incident I had witnessed. I can't tell you about it as I will be giving evidence in court. A PC from the specialist team came over to take my statement - and she was FANTASTIC!

She was clued-up on the intricacies of relationship abuse, knew all the Freedom Programme, and was highly sympathetic to the issues leading victims to stay with abusers. She really cared about the victim and is doing what she can to support her.

I've kept up to speed with changes in the law, and in police training, in this area. But I'll admit I was sceptical about the effectiveness of such changes until this meeting. Ours is not a large or well-funded county, so there's no reason to think it has exceptional provision for specialist policing - this wonderful officer must be fairly typical, I should think.

I decided to post this now because there are a couple of current threads where posters are doubtful about calling the police and have been advised not to by friends & family. That's insanity. Not only can the police get you some precious time while your abuser's in the station, they can fast-track you to support services as needed. Ask to speak to someone from the Domestic Abuse Team, and believe that they will understand.

flowers star to good cops everywhere.

cozietoesie Thu 13-Aug-15 21:48:26

That's good to know, Garlick. I'm not so sure as you that it's fairly typical but any positive movement has to be a good thing for the force generally I think.

DogWalker75 Thu 13-Aug-15 21:53:52

Is it Cheshire? They were very good to me when I reported my ex.

SomethingWonderful Thu 13-Aug-15 21:54:00

Long time lurker...

Echo what Garlick said; reported my ex-DP abusive tosspot for the first time, and couldn't have been more impressed by how well they supported me. Completely changed my perception of the police, and would not hesitate for a minute to contact them again (although I'm hoping I'll never have a need to now). May not reflect everyone's experiences, but it's good to know there are good ones out there who really do want to help. PC told me DV is very frustrating from their p.o.v, they want to do a lot more but can't as matters often end up in the courts etc anyway.

Garlick Thu 13-Aug-15 21:59:26

It's great to hear you had positive experiences too, Something and DogWalker. No, it's not Cheshire!

cozietoesie Thu 13-Aug-15 22:05:38

Ah. More positive experiences. smile

Fuckingstupid2015 Thu 13-Aug-15 23:22:26

I had fantastic support too, more than once when I was married to my Ex. so kind and supportive

smink Thu 13-Aug-15 23:23:57

Glad to hear it as I often tell people the police are better than they think on dv. star

Smilingforth Fri 14-Aug-15 06:14:25

That's great - DV is such a hidden complex matter that it's great when it's dealt with how it should be as basically the same as any other assault.

Perfectlypurple Fri 14-Aug-15 06:22:00

The things is historically domestic abuse was 'just a domestic' so people are still thinking that it is like that and are surprised when they realise it isn't. I still get calls saying I know you can't do anything as it is only a domestic but... I hen have to explain it isn't like the old days and we can and will help.

I am really glad that you have had a positive experience.

cozietoesie Fri 14-Aug-15 22:46:07

This has really given me a good and positive feeling.

cozietoesie Sat 15-Aug-15 13:22:32

I hope weekend board readers will catch this thread and also feel better.


sadwidow28 Sat 15-Aug-15 19:20:00

I also wondered if it was Cheshire. wink

It just goes to show that the police are really supporting the training of caring, empathetic officers who clearly support the victims.

cozietoesie Sat 15-Aug-15 20:49:02

It's good news isn't it? smile

iAmSiri Sat 15-Aug-15 21:13:27

I had amazing support from the police when I reported my ex. They made me feel believed and I felt safer after speaking to them. At ever step of the court proceedings the female PC handling the case phoned me so I was always up todate. And even now the court case is over (apart from sentencing) they have still be there and have put me in touch with a few charitable groups that can help me and my children with counselling.

cozietoesie Sat 15-Aug-15 21:30:41


Smilingforth Sat 15-Aug-15 23:28:34


Garlick Sun 16-Aug-15 20:24:03

smile Glad they were so good to you, Siri. This is encouraging!

cozietoesie Sun 16-Aug-15 23:50:26

Very encouraging. There must be many people who couldn't face the sort of police attitude that is sometimes portrayed in the public's consciousness. This will give them hope.

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