I was face timing older sis yesterday and just mentioned I met boyfriends brother and I thought he was a very nice man. My sis then said " hey don't get any ideas, stick with boyfriend" Background and context is I have 3 had yes three partners in my life, my first boyfriend then one I lived with then my exh I am now going back out with my first boyfriend (:-) and my sis has had the one husband She is only eight years older than me AIBU to think this was insulting and patronising I have told her about the small mindedness attitude of this small town I live in towards divorced single women like me so she knows how unreasonable that is and then she says that! She has now gone down in my estimation and I am now trying to process that.
I agree with Cabrinha, based on what you've written here you are having a staggering over-reaction. You say so-and-so is nice and your sister reminds you you have a boyfriend. The end.
Have you thought about moving away from SmallMindedVille, though - if people really are making comments about divorced women? it sounds like something out of a 1950s farce, the Divorcee with her Predatory Ways. You would be wearing a chiffon outfit with batwing sleeves and probably rather too much makeup for daytime. I suspect you might smoke cigarettes in a long holder. In fact now I think you should do all those things and not give a toss what anyone says about it!
Come to think of it, my sister is 5 years older than me. I have a new boyfriend. My ex boyfriend came round to do some work for me - he's a builder. My sister said "no shagging him, mind". I sniggered and said "ooooooh, to have both whenever I wanted". That's what sisters are for - people to giggle with about behaving inappropriately in a way you'd never actually do
Haha I like you tribpot you have nailed me yes I do in fact waft about with the irresistible perfume of vamp to especially entice married men to leave their wives every opportunity I get. The tone was serious and she meant it which came as a surprise unfortunately :-(
If it came as a surprise, that means no back story. Which means you could be wrong. Even if it is a serious warning - why does it upset you? Why isn't it written off immediately by you saying "oh god no - I'm only interested in BF!" Why has this got your goat if she doesn't have form for it?
Yes, you would need a very heavy perfume as well, and probably have one too many buttons undone on your blouse.
So the problem was the comment was deadly serious, your sister thought you were planning to leave your boyfriend for his brother? Well, what if you were? Rather a complicated situation admittedly but the Predatory Divorcee is well used to such things.
I think I would point out to her, half-joking 'you do realise I'm allowed to mention other men without this meaning I'm about to run off with them? He's my boyfriend's brother for crying out loud'.
My response was "what the hell are you on about!" And she backtracked but I'm fed up of appearing whiter than white here without having to do the same with sis It just shows how old fashioned her thinking is and I was upset at her thinking like that about me, that's all Oh well it's that time of night I need to hang about the pub to snare my next victims
How are you having to appear whiter than white? Are you sure you're not over sensitive about being divorced? It's never even occurred to me that anyone in my village will think anything of it. We're not alone! It's not the 80s with one divorcee as the only divorcee in the village!
Maybe she backtracked because you can't tell she was joking. In your posts, you come across as a cliche looking down at her with a perceived ooo look how cosmopolitan I am with my views now that I escaped the village mentality...if you added you were a writing your first novel, we'd have a Lifetime movie of the the week.
Joking? Why are you all so certain her DSis was joking? None of you heard the tone of tbe conversation, or of that particular comment, or know whether tge DSis is even the joking sort yet you're all so adamant that it was a joke!
I agree that from lots of people it would be a joke, if it came from my friend, it would be. But MY sister would never joke about things like that so if that sort of comment passed her lips i would jnow that she wasn't joking
I can assure you that the tone was serious and it was not a joke and that is why it upset me that she would think that about me. She is a bit prim I suppose but I thought she knew me, but obviously not. I have not overreacted with her I just had a little rant on here about small mindedness, as I have faced that before and didn't expect it from her and yes it was good to actually turn it into a little laugh with trib Thanks for that