I made the decision to go NC with my 'D'M earlier this year as a result of an abusive childhood.
But what has really got me is how it has affected my relationships with other family members - in particular my DSIS and my auntie. Both have basically slowly cut me out. They know my reasons for going NC but I now feel like a scapegoat as if anything it has almost strengthened their relationship with 'D'M. Lots of OTT Facebook posts about outings etc.
Then last week it came to a head when they (my auntie and my DSIS) didn't tell me that my beloved elderly uncle was in hospital and could potentially die. My DH saw a post about it on Facebook! I had unfollowed them as a result of OTT Facebook posts. All I said to them when I went NC with 'D'M was that I didn't expect them to choose between us and that I wanted to have a relationship with them independently of her (get togethers would often have been on my 'D'Ms turf and terms).
Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice? It feels like I have been the one to lose my whole family by finally deciding that I wasn't going to have a relationship with my mother any more. It's making me sad and I feel so disappointed in them.
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Unforeseen repercussions of going NC [sad]
reddaisy · 12/08/2015 21:05
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