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I'm so angry and annoyed.. help

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Clefairy85 · 10/08/2015 17:57

The jist of it is my step sister and I used to be close, my children saw her as their auntie anyway things went sour between us because she was doing her best to take my place with my dad and my other family members slowly pushing me out and worming her way in. So we haven't spoken for a while.

I found out that she's now dating my ex fiancé and father to my girls. I've hit the roof. I also found out today when he had them overnight on Saturday she was there too.. playing happy families and they told the girls not to tell me she was there. I'm sickened.
Angry, sickened and I feel like I'm losing my mind.

How can you do this? How can you make my children keep secrets from me?

I just need advice on how to handle it I'm very fiesty and I've gone 100 shades of crazy probably too crazy.. let's just say I have made everyone aware of how I feel. I've said no one is ever going near my children again. That they'll have to fight me in court. I have a non molestation order against my ex as he was physically and mentally abusive in the end and would not leave my home.

I'd just like to add I'm not jealous I have no feelings towards my ex at all I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my new partner who I adore and am very happy with.

Help!

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ALaughAMinute · 10/08/2015 18:18

So if you're not jealous, what's worrying you?

If I were you, I'd let them get on with it. It'll probably end in a few months anyway.

As for the children being told not to tell you, I do agree that was wrong but there's nothing you can about it now.

I think you should let go of the past and look forward to your new baby. Easier said than done I know, but you need to look after yourself and chill out.

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chairmeoh · 10/08/2015 18:23

I don't know what help to suggest, but I do think she has massively overstepped the line. The first rule of dating is that you don't do it with your friend's ex, and this is far more complicated than that!
Are you still in contact with your dad?

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Clefairy85 · 10/08/2015 19:03

It's hard to explain what's made me so angry, there is a LOT that has gone on and I feel massively betrayed by people who used to call me their family.

No we don't talk anymore because of said step sister and my step mum.