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OLD - two messages per day, non over the weekend. Would you trust?

(55 Posts)
Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 07:55:27

Started to chat to someone online. So he texts once early morning and one message late evening after 10 pm but before 11pm.
Hasn't texted over the weekends at all. But did yesterday after 10pm and stated being busy...

Would you trust?

JohnFarleysRuskin Mon 10-Aug-15 08:00:36

Have you even met yet?

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:04:04

No, just getting to know each other

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:05:22

Its first time I am taking OLD seriously and don't know what to think of this...

JohnFarleysRuskin Mon 10-Aug-15 08:05:50

Why not meet?

You are investing this time and effort in someone you might think is a total prat in real life.

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:07:16

He lives outside of London, and non of us actually mentioned meeting up...

JohnFarleysRuskin Mon 10-Aug-15 08:08:12

Gawd, is that what you are looking for then- a pen pal?

NerrSnerr Mon 10-Aug-15 08:10:42

If you haven't met then that's plenty of contact. Do you want to meet?

Ragwort Mon 10-Aug-15 08:11:07

Honestly, you sound like a love struck teenager, you haven't even met the guy yet and you are are stressing about whether or not he sends you a text and at what time.

If you like the initial sound of him, suggest you meet for a coffee and take it from there.

Thank goodness I am too old and uninterested to bother with OLD

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:12:19

I am not sure... I am not attached to him or something...
And I'm happy on my own, and he stated the same.
I never had a relationship and i dont know what to think.....

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:13:59

My name here says everything...

00100001 Mon 10-Aug-15 08:15:46

Ehh, I wouldn't think too much of it, how long have u been chatting?

JohnFarleysRuskin Mon 10-Aug-15 08:15:56

Ah well that's more complicated...

This isn't a relationship, of course, this is texting someone...

You said you were taking OLD seriously - does that mean you do want a relationship?

Georgethesecond Mon 10-Aug-15 08:19:21

If he says he's happy on his own does that mean he's just looking for sex?

Trills Mon 10-Aug-15 08:21:47

I have a feeling that you are all getting the wrong end of the stick.

The OP is not asking does he like me?

She is asking does this sound like the behaviour of someone who is actually single?

I think he's married, and texts you in the morning on his way to work and at night after his wife is in bed.

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:21:47

yes, I do want to settle down, have a family...

Had a chance, but stepped back due to a person not realizing how rude he was...

Decided to move on and find someone... But never tried OLD before...

I know, I have trust issues as well

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:24:12


Thank you for reading my mind.

I did think that way too...

And he found an excuse to being very busy over the weekends.

JohnFarleysRuskin Mon 10-Aug-15 08:27:51

I don't think the op is asking 'does he like me' either.

But I am wondering what the point of the texting etc is.

Op, why would you trust any random on the internet? You're right to be sceptical. But be open minded too.

wannaBe Mon 10-Aug-15 08:30:47

I would hazzard a guess that he's married and possibly even that he works away from home hence why he texts during the week and not at weekends.

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:43:34

@John, thank you.

@WannaBe I did think he is married, didn't go into details of him working away.

Just chatted with few people before and they seemed texting whenever they can. He texts only on certain time and checked my profile on Saturday 5min to midnight, but didn't leave a message.

I know now he is looking for ego boost. Madness!

MozzchopsThirty Mon 10-Aug-15 08:44:29

It's pointless to keep messaging someone on OLD
I always met people ASAP, get a much better idea face to face.
I had no time for those who wanted to msg for weeks

Trills Mon 10-Aug-15 08:44:37

I think you should figure out what you want out of online dating.

Most people on there will, if they decide they like talking to you, want to meet up.

Do you want to meet someone? To go on dates? To maybe have a relationship, if you decide that you like them?

Until you know what you want, you can't message people and think do we want the same thing? because you don't know what that would be.

Myturnnow4 Mon 10-Aug-15 08:46:25

Mozz I agree with the "meet early" ethos, but how do you word that without sounding desperate?

JohnFarleysRuskin Mon 10-Aug-15 08:50:19

I don't think meeting early ever sounds desperate. Au contraire!

I always used to meet straight away- the last thing I would want is daily 'good morning gorgeous' texts from someone who I've never met.

If they don't want to meet they have Ishoos (usually)

Inexperiencedchick Mon 10-Aug-15 08:53:29

TBH Deep inside I don't believe I will find someone on OLD.

Just signed up to try my luck...

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