Do and I were supposed to be going away this weekend. However I just wanted a break from him and his constant negativity so I told him to take his kids and go without me. The idea was that he'd get quality time with his kids, I'd get quality time with my kids and we'd spend time apart and realise we missed each other and still love each other.
It hasn't quite worked out like that.
From the minute he left on Friday I felt like a ton weight had been lifted. I felt relaxed, chilled out - I left my shoes in the kitchen and laughed as I realised there was nobody here to tell me off ... I went to bed when I wanted to, I didn't touch a drop of alcohol from Friday onwards (I have a thread running detailing my alcohol problems - now I know the trigger!) and I restarted my hobby this morning too. Took the kids out for a meal tonight and have just got into bed with a cup of tea. But I have this dark cloud hanging over me that he's home tomorrow and I actually feel quite upset and depressed about it. All the arguments, all the sarcasm, moaning, complaining, blaming - I didn't miss him at all. Now I'm thinking "shit, what does this mean?? What now??"
He's sent me a couple of texts over the weekend saying he's Missing me etc but I can barely be arsed to reply. I have done of course, I have lied and told him I'm missing him too but secretly I'm wishing he was away for another week. I'm at work tomorrow and he'll likely get home before I get in and I'm sat here thinking "is the house tidy enough? Or is he likely to moan?" Ffs
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I was supposed to miss him but I'm dreading him coming home
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ResidentNevil · 09/08/2015 22:45
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