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he says he's left her

(35 Posts)
bluebell876 Sun 09-Aug-15 15:20:55

said its over and it was awful etc etc but feels better for it and there's stuff that needs sorting (house and so on). her Facebook photo is still a photo of them though, and he said he's moved into his parents but he sent a photo that was clearly in their house. I know he could have gone back for other things etc and I don't see why he would lie as surely I'd find out (social media etc) but I have no proof that he's left her other than to take his word for it. advice please?

Pagwatch Sun 09-Aug-15 15:23:03

What - I don't understand?

Who is she? Who is he?
Is this your partner leaving his wife - or your partner leaving an affair?

TheMarxistMinx Sun 09-Aug-15 15:24:20

Does it matter if he has left her or not if he isn't with you? Do you need proof for some reason?

LIZS Sun 09-Aug-15 15:24:48

Are you the ow? You sound very insecure. Don't commit to anything until there is a clear space between them . Have you met his family ?

TheMarxistMinx Sun 09-Aug-15 15:26:06

Are you the OW and he has said he has left his wife? very confused!

Ilovenannyplum Sun 09-Aug-15 15:26:38

If I understand correctly.....

Find someone else that isn't already married. Cheating is the lowest of the low.
Sorry OP but how can you trust somebody that's cheated on his wife and already proved himself to be a liar, I wouldn't be able to.

If I've got the wrong end of the stick, please correct me

Christophewouldgetit Sun 09-Aug-15 15:26:52

So your 'D'P has left his wife for you (more like booted out when she found out) and you're asking us advice for what exactly? How to get proof he's left? How to tell if he's lying?

If he was cheating on his wife with you, you will never be able to trust anything he says.. to be able to cheat means being able to lie utterly convincingly to someone who knows you better than anyone else..

Good luck hmm

HappyGoLuckyGirl Sun 09-Aug-15 15:27:13

Well that's nice.

NickiFury Sun 09-Aug-15 15:27:21

Wow, what a dramatic description. How amazingly passionate it all is!

Hope he cheats on you too smile.

PacificDogwood Sun 09-Aug-15 15:29:40

bluebelle, have you sought RL help and support?
You keep posting these v dramatic and somewhat disjointed threads, you keep getting lots of advice, but you still seem stuck in this hugely dysfunctional mess.

Cut your losses, cut him loose and learn to look after yourself, woman.

FenellaFellorick Sun 09-Aug-15 15:30:36

you could always tell him to contact you when he is free to be in a relationship with you and not before.

Ilovenannyplum Sun 09-Aug-15 15:31:58

Oh I didn't realise there were more dramatic posts from the OP about the same thing hmm

NickiFury Sun 09-Aug-15 15:32:14

Wait, is this the boyfriend who lives in his girlfriends, who has just had a baby, spare room and plays x box all of the live long day?

LIZS Sun 09-Aug-15 15:33:46

Just seen other thread. No , he's stringing you along. There will be one excuse after another to justify contact, pics etc. The need to watch out for clues and analyse is no way to build trust between you. The "relationship" has been founded on lies, why would he need to change.

Ivegottoknow Sun 09-Aug-15 15:37:54

Oh, so is he moving in with you now?

VixxFace Sun 09-Aug-15 15:41:02

This can't be the one with the newborn baby? ?

I thought you wasn't contacting him any more?

goddessofsmallthings Sun 09-Aug-15 15:46:47

Are you the one who's having unprotected sex with your best friend's brother whose dp has just had his baby?

Why don't you ask your bestie if he's moved back home?

Bubblesinthesummer Sun 09-Aug-15 15:48:53

Are you the one who's having unprotected sex with your best friend's brother whose dp has just had his baby?

If it is you OP I thought you were having no more contact confused

LavenderLeigh Sun 09-Aug-15 15:49:35

This isn't the guy you've been flirting with by text, whose girlfriend just had a baby and who you shagged twice by accident, is it?

AlbrechtDurer Sun 09-Aug-15 15:52:52

Oh ffs. Why don't you ask Jeremy Kyle, OP? Everyone here is running out of the same advice to keep giving you.

LIZS Sun 09-Aug-15 15:55:14

Does op have other usernames as none of that was in the one I found!

bluebell876 Sun 09-Aug-15 15:57:12

nothing to do with someone's brother and baby?

Lj8893 Sun 09-Aug-15 15:58:28

I don't get who he and she are in your op? Maybe if your clearer you might get some better advice!

gamerchick Sun 09-Aug-15 16:03:33

Nope you're going to have to elaborate on that. No clue.

Reginafalangie Sun 09-Aug-15 16:03:49

Run to him OP!

Welcome him with open arms, I mean you cannot let a catch like this go.
He is so charming, trustworthy, caring, honourable.........oh no wait he is none of those things is he...why?

BECAUSE HE HAS BEEN SHAGGING YOU WHILE HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE MOTHER OF HIS NEW BORN.

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