I except my partners gone, he chose the other woman and after 8 months it pretty obvious he's not coming back.
I guess what I don't except is how he finds it so easy, to leave a family and a partner and see his children twice a month (this is what he wanted, I would like him to have them more from a work and social point of view but also because they never speak about him unless I ask them about him or remind them of something they did together, they never ask for him and at 3-4 I find that really unhealthy, I don't discourage it, I never bad mouth him to them and I am mostly polite and cordial and hangovers etc)
He has always made me feel like he wasn't sure about what he was doing but after making such a selfish decision the repercussions were too great to come back, yes perhaps but it doesn't stop him from being a father and a good active one.
He has a busy work life and struggled to balance a family , work and myself it caused a lot of tension and I think he thought by leaving for his co worker he would be free of that , I'm not sure if he is it just seems that his children are even lower on the pecking order than they were before, I have asked him to step back and think how he would feel if his father had been seeing someone else more than his children (they don't live together so it is a conscious decision to use the one day each week he has off and share it between the girlfriend and my children)
He has always blown hot and cold with me, in an ideal world he would have liked me to sit around waiting to see if he got bored of the ow , not to have been hurt and waltzed on happy.
I don't know what I'm posting for but will it be easier to except he left so easily over time it's been 8 months and I still don't understand how you can leave a family !
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