Dh told me the other night that he had been thinking of leaving me.
He thinks I'm distant and that he has been scared of me coming home each day and telling him I'm leaving.
He doesn't want to live like that.
He has said he would stay with me if I start to show him I love him more.
We haven't been right for 6 months at least since fertility issues, job issues and family issues have been rife.
I seem to be distancing myself from him and I can see I'm doing it and I don't really want to spend any time at home anymore.
I'm happier when I'm on my own or with other people and I think it's because when I'm with him it's tense and I'm reminded of our problems.
So I spoke to my mum and told her what's been happening and she said she could tell I haven't been happy for a while but that every marriage is difficult and not everyone loves each other in a marriage like they did when they first got together and I should continue to try and make it work.
My problem is I can't see that as the right thing to do.
He is a good man generally and provides very well.
We don't have children.
My job is on the rocks.
We have a nice home and a dog.
I wouldn't be able to afford to live alone or stay in my house.
I would have to move in with my parents.
These are the things I'm most scared about with us separating. Plus about being alone forever which mum has warned me could possibly happen.
Dh has also told me that my fertility problems won't just go away if I meet someone new.
So after thinking like this for a few days it doesn't really seem that I'm scared of breaking up for the right reasons to try and make it work anymore?
Should I give it a few months?
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How do I decide if I leave or stay and try to make it work?
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Beaverfeaver2 · 07/08/2015 22:24
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