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can't cope. partner left, met someone else.

(9 Posts)
Hurtandconfused6537 Fri 07-Aug-15 10:55:33

I was with my ex just over 3 years... we both have children from previous marriages but none together. I was truly in love with my ex and thought he was too. We were so close, at first everything was amazing but over last year things deteriorated. We started arguing about his partying, I wasnt allowed to go anywhere because he was so scared of losing me. We stopped having things in common.

2 month ago I went on a night out and he went mental, we rowed and he left me. He said he was depressed and I left him when he needed me the most.

I tried to apologise but the damage was done. He started partying every night and didn't want me back. He said he loved me but needed space.. kept sleeping with me, blowing hot and cold. Filling me with hope. Then after 2 week he got with another girl... I was devastated I wanted to die, it really was worst pain in the world but my kids kept me going...

Suppose I am just struggling to deal with this. He tells her all same things he told me.. like she's different, he's never felt like this.
He was so possessive over me so needy and loving, I thought he really loves me. How can he go from that to forgetting I exist so soon.
Since he got the new girlfriend we are no longer in contact. I find it hard

Hurtandconfused6537 Fri 07-Aug-15 11:28:21

Anyone been through this. I'm struggling so bad to understand

Jan45 Fri 07-Aug-15 11:30:51

He was possessive and controlling and didn't want you to go out and do what he was doing, sniffing about elsewhere.

All he had done is hurt you and will continue to hurt you if you let him, it really is time to count your blessings, he's one of life's users.

CantAffordtoLive Fri 07-Aug-15 11:34:59

Sadly I think Jan has it spot on. You really are better off without this guy.

Take some time to heal. I think you will eventually realise he didn't love you at all.

Hurtandconfused6537 Fri 07-Aug-15 11:52:33

It just makes me feel so worthless. 3years we were together. He used to be so sweet and romantic. And all of a sudden he just stopped caring.

I just can't understand how he moved on so quickly. All I do is cry.

Myturnnow4 Fri 07-Aug-15 12:06:05

Have you been to the doctors, and if not, how long will you leave it before you do go? When I wasn't able to sleep or regain the weight I lost I gave myself deadlines after which if things were the same I intended to go to the doctor for help.

Finola1step Fri 07-Aug-15 12:09:42

He showed you who he really was. It took a while, but he showed you eventually.

Jan45 Fri 07-Aug-15 12:10:22

He met someone else, he was never fully committed OP.

You are not worthless, he wasn't even a pleasant person.

I know it sounds harsh but you need to busy yourself as much as possible and enjoy yourself too!

Hurtandconfused6537 Fri 07-Aug-15 13:15:58

Thanks everyone

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