DP and I have been together almost a year. He has a dc from a previous relationship. I have a dc and am very much a single parent. Everything has been going fine, we all get on great, he's kind and supportive, both our dcs seem happy.
He has always made it very clear that his dc is his priority and I get that as I feel the same. However, he only gets to be with his part time and I know this hurts him. He dotes on his dc.
The problem I'm finding, and I'd like thoughts on, is that he is finding it hard to be around my dc when his isn't there. To the point that he is ok with me staying at his house when his dc isn't there, but he doesn't want my dc staying over. We occasionally go for a short visit, but nothing more. We have stayed over night when his dc is there. He is fine coming to my house, but really struggles at his. He has found it hard to talk about but I've managed to get out of him that he feels guilty and misses his dc. I think mine being there emphasises that his isn't.
Has anyone experienced anything like this? Will it get better? I am patient and understanding with him but it does make things a little difficult and makes me wonder what the future might hold if he doesn't 'get over it'. He says we all have emotional baggage and unfortunately this is his - it's not his choice and he can't just change it.
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SanDiegoSunsets · 07/08/2015 08:04
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