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I finally understand the BJ thing!!!

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igetitnow · 06/08/2015 20:42

NC for this (cube of poo, penis beaker and so on)

I finally "get" why women enjoy giving blowjobs.

I've always hated it, but I do it when asked to anyway, because well, it's nice to be nice.

I always thought that women who said they liked doing it were lying or something because I always felt too self conscious about doing it wrong or scared of choking to ever enjoy any part of it.

Well!! Tonight that has changed
FWB came to visit (I'm not a tramp I swear) and the reaction when I was doing my thing was bloody brilliant. Who knew you could have so much power over someone else's enjoyment Shock

Now what else have I been missing because I let my self consciousness get in the way. I feel like there must be a whole other world out there that I should try Grin

Bit of a pointless thread I suppose but I felt I wanted to share my accomplishment Grin

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usualsuspect333 · 06/08/2015 20:44

That's nice dear.

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katd999 · 06/08/2015 20:47

I stopped reading when you mentioned cube of poo and penis beaker

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katd999 · 06/08/2015 20:48

It was irrelevant

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SkatesMcgee · 06/08/2015 20:49

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bendybrickpumpkinpatch · 06/08/2015 20:50

Gosh it's only 20.49 and FWN has been, got his bj and left all ready Hmm

Doesn't sound like you have much power?

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YakTriangle · 06/08/2015 20:50

Gosh. Well. Super.

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bendybrickpumpkinpatch · 06/08/2015 20:51

Fwb not FWN who knows what that means! !!

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bendybrickpumpkinpatch · 06/08/2015 20:51

Friend with nob maybe?

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mrschatty · 06/08/2015 20:51

slowhandclap...

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IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes · 06/08/2015 20:53

Grin @bendy

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WhirlpoolGalaxyM51 · 06/08/2015 20:53

Ummmmmmmmmmmmmm

Ok.

I'm pretty selfish in bed myself.

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usualsuspect333 · 06/08/2015 20:55

I've asked for your thread to be moved to the perv sex topic.

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gaggiagirl · 06/08/2015 20:56

Have your post moved to the sex board so like minded individuals can pat you on the back and what not

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SaulGood · 06/08/2015 21:02

What else can you do that self consciousness has stopped you from attempting?

Singing and dancing down the dairy aisle in Asda
Saying hello to strangers on the bus
Picking your nose whilst sitting at traffic lights
Having a go at an open mic session at the local comedy club
Dogging

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RubyRedfortSecretAgent · 06/08/2015 21:02

Now what else have I been missing?

Playing on your Xbox
Watching CBBC
Hanging out with other teens rather than posting on Mumsnet
Doing the Summer Reading Challenge

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purplemurple1 · 06/08/2015 21:03

Have they reciprocated?

Have you tried having an actual relationship that's a pretty cool fun thing to try out some time too.

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Ivegottogo · 06/08/2015 21:21

Someone is going to come along in a minute and take you seriously.

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DesertIslander · 06/08/2015 21:27

Oh OP, sorry for the frosty reception.

I'm happy for you!! :)

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LookAtMeGo · 06/08/2015 21:35

You guys! Grin

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HelsBels3000 · 06/08/2015 21:39

what is there to understand exactly? Hmm

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sugar21 · 06/08/2015 21:42

Bit early for bj's or is it now bedtime and the very hungry caterpillar. Careful with that one it gets a bit ya know prickly

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igetitnow · 07/08/2015 18:09

OK so I can see how this came across and I can understand why the reaction is what it is.

Just to clarify. This is something which has been a big deal to me, I struggle with confidence in the bedroom in general. It was a big thing because I finally felt I'd done something right and didn't feel all embarrassed or anything. I was probably misguided and shouldn't have posted it I guess.

In response to the relationship thing, yes, I have tried relationships but I end up feeling claustrophobic and trapped. I dated the guy in question for about 18 months and it just didn't work as a relationship. I don't want to be committed, but we still have chemistry and as friends we get along really well, so we still see each other a few times a month on a no strings basis. I don't know if it is worse describing him as an ex or as FWB.

I can understand how it must have sounded and that wasn't the intention. I was sharing because i had gotten a bit of confidence back but I obviously should have thought it through before sharing

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Jan45 · 07/08/2015 18:19

Seriously OP if you feel embarrassed or lacking in confidence with a man it's usually cos it's the wrong man!

Also, why would you do a sex act on anyone just to keep them happy when you didn't even enjoy it.

But, happy you are now finding your own enjoyment!

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igetitnow · 07/08/2015 18:27

That is probably true. My commitment issues coupled with a lack of confidence probably leads me to choosing people who aren't right for me.

If I try and explain why, then it sounds so silly. It doesn't even really make sense when I try to think about why. Whenever I've done it I've known I can say no. And sometimes I have said no and that hasn't been an issue. But it's an expected thing and so many people go on about how men think it's the best thing ever I just sort of did it because you're supposed to. See, that sounds so silly.

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springydaffs · 07/08/2015 18:41

Aw op, people have got the wrong end of the stick here. Sorry you've had a rough time, hope it hasn't popped your new-found confidence xx (not silly at all btw)

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