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I finally understand the BJ thing!!!

(64 Posts)
igetitnow Thu 06-Aug-15 20:42:51

NC for this (cube of poo, penis beaker and so on)

I finally "get" why women enjoy giving blowjobs.

I've always hated it, but I do it when asked to anyway, because well, it's nice to be nice.

I always thought that women who said they liked doing it were lying or something because I always felt too self conscious about doing it wrong or scared of choking to ever enjoy any part of it.

Well!! Tonight that has changed
FWB came to visit (I'm not a tramp I swear) and the reaction when I was doing my thing was bloody brilliant. Who knew you could have so much power over someone else's enjoyment shock

Now what else have I been missing because I let my self consciousness get in the way. I feel like there must be a whole other world out there that I should try grin

Bit of a pointless thread I suppose but I felt I wanted to share my accomplishment grin

usualsuspect333 Thu 06-Aug-15 20:44:25

That's nice dear.

katd999 Thu 06-Aug-15 20:47:20

I stopped reading when you mentioned cube of poo and penis beaker

katd999 Thu 06-Aug-15 20:48:11

It was irrelevant

SkatesMcgee Thu 06-Aug-15 20:49:13

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

bendybrickpumpkinpatch Thu 06-Aug-15 20:50:14

Gosh it's only 20.49 and FWN has been, got his bj and left all ready hmm

Doesn't sound like you have much power?

YakTriangle Thu 06-Aug-15 20:50:29

Gosh. Well. Super.

bendybrickpumpkinpatch Thu 06-Aug-15 20:51:00

Fwb not FWN who knows what that means! !!

bendybrickpumpkinpatch Thu 06-Aug-15 20:51:25

Friend with nob maybe?

mrschatty Thu 06-Aug-15 20:51:25


WhirlpoolGalaxyM51 Thu 06-Aug-15 20:53:10



I'm pretty selfish in bed myself. <shrugs>

IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes Thu 06-Aug-15 20:53:10

grin @bendy

usualsuspect333 Thu 06-Aug-15 20:55:05

I've asked for your thread to be moved to the perv sex topic.

gaggiagirl Thu 06-Aug-15 20:56:42

Have your post moved to the sex board so like minded individuals can pat you on the back and what not

SaulGood Thu 06-Aug-15 21:02:01

What else can you do that self consciousness has stopped you from attempting?

Singing and dancing down the dairy aisle in Asda
Saying hello to strangers on the bus
Picking your nose whilst sitting at traffic lights
Having a go at an open mic session at the local comedy club

RubyRedfortSecretAgent Thu 06-Aug-15 21:02:22

Now what else have I been missing?

Playing on your Xbox
Watching CBBC
Hanging out with other teens rather than posting on Mumsnet
Doing the Summer Reading Challenge

purplemurple1 Thu 06-Aug-15 21:03:45

Have they reciprocated?

Have you tried having an actual relationship that's a pretty cool fun thing to try out some time too.

Ivegottogo Thu 06-Aug-15 21:21:12

Someone is going to come along in a minute and take you seriously.

DesertIslander Thu 06-Aug-15 21:27:43

Oh OP, sorry for the frosty reception.

I'm happy for you!! smile

LookAtMeGo Thu 06-Aug-15 21:35:32

You guys! grin

HelsBels3000 Thu 06-Aug-15 21:39:59

what is there to understand exactly? hmm

sugar21 Thu 06-Aug-15 21:42:55

Bit early for bj's or is it now bedtime and the very hungry caterpillar. Careful with that one it gets a bit ya know prickly

igetitnow Fri 07-Aug-15 18:09:19

OK so I can see how this came across and I can understand why the reaction is what it is.

Just to clarify. This is something which has been a big deal to me, I struggle with confidence in the bedroom in general. It was a big thing because I finally felt I'd done something right and didn't feel all embarrassed or anything. I was probably misguided and shouldn't have posted it I guess.

In response to the relationship thing, yes, I have tried relationships but I end up feeling claustrophobic and trapped. I dated the guy in question for about 18 months and it just didn't work as a relationship. I don't want to be committed, but we still have chemistry and as friends we get along really well, so we still see each other a few times a month on a no strings basis. I don't know if it is worse describing him as an ex or as FWB.

I can understand how it must have sounded and that wasn't the intention. I was sharing because i had gotten a bit of confidence back but I obviously should have thought it through before sharing

Jan45 Fri 07-Aug-15 18:19:54

Seriously OP if you feel embarrassed or lacking in confidence with a man it's usually cos it's the wrong man!

Also, why would you do a sex act on anyone just to keep them happy when you didn't even enjoy it.

But, happy you are now finding your own enjoyment!

igetitnow Fri 07-Aug-15 18:27:16

That is probably true. My commitment issues coupled with a lack of confidence probably leads me to choosing people who aren't right for me.

If I try and explain why, then it sounds so silly. It doesn't even really make sense when I try to think about why. Whenever I've done it I've known I can say no. And sometimes I have said no and that hasn't been an issue. But it's an expected thing and so many people go on about how men think it's the best thing ever I just sort of did it because you're supposed to. See, that sounds so silly.

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