not going to happen is it?

[bluebell876]

he said he is going to leave his girlfriend for me at the end of the month. they have an event To go to that is quite important for her and he said he cannot do it before. however, recent days she has posted photos online with captions of love hearts and they have had very normal "couple-like" convos online that I have seen.

I have never mentioned him leaving, it is always him who has mentioned it and I feel lost and confused. I want to ask him but I don't know what to say which sounds rather silly.

I just want to know if he is going to plain and simple or we are both wasting each other's time. he was adamant that it will happen and be sorted soon.

[PushingThru]

This man is going to break your heart whether he leaves his girlfriend for you or not. Dump him; he's a cheat & a liar.

[Joysmum]

He's a heartbreaker he's risking her heart and he'll break yours too.

[Sallyingforth]

Any decent man will finish a relationship before looking round for another.
If he's treating her that way he will treat you the same. Get out now.

[Smorgasboard]

2 options - 1) no further contact until have proof it's all over ( not sure how you'd obtain that), 2) Give up as a bad idea and work out why you would entertain this notion in the first place when most wouldn't for many good reasons.

[AuntyMag10]

He should leave her because it sounds like you both deserve each other.

[Branleuse]

you know it isnt.

[Cabrinha]

Go take a look at yourself in the mirror.

Part of me wants to be kind that maybe there's a reason that you've got the morals of an alley cat.

Most of me is lacking any sympathy and thinks that you deserve the upset of being strung along. Not that his girlfriend does.

[Sweetsecret]

If they will do it with you, they will do it to you. It always works out like that, get rid.

[InTheBox]

why can't you find someone who is single and available? do you think that once you have him everything will fall into place and you'll have a happy ever after. this is a train wreck in the making. get out of it and look at working on your self-esteem.

[LocksOfGold]

Why are you 'with' someone who has a girlfriend in the first place? Don't waste your time. What makes you any different to his current girlfriend that he is cheating on?... He won't hesitate to do it to you you.

Find a nice, honest, SINGLE guy.

[InTheBox]

Have a look at the Baggage Reclaim site, especially this post about future faking:
www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/future-faking-is-partly-about-using-intentions-to-enhance-self-image/
"When somebody talks about or hints at the future to get what they want in the present."
You're setting yourself up for a major fall if you pursue this.

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

I would second the recommendation to read Baggage Reclaim.

You are wasting your time with this low life.

You need to dump him before he further shits on you from a great height. I feel sorry for his girlfriend who likely has no idea that her man is seeing someone else. You are really the other woman here; is that how you envisaged yourself within any relationship?.

[Anniegetyourgun]

Ah, it's not cheating because they've broken up really, he just hasn't told her yet. Is that the one known as "oldest line in the book"?

[AcrossthePond55]

To put it succinctly; no, it's not going to happen.

He's using you, AND her, and is probably so proud of what a player he is. He probably talks about both of you to his mates, and not in very flattering terms.

Is that really what you want? Is it?