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not going to happen is it?

(15 Posts)
bluebell876 Thu 06-Aug-15 17:59:10

he said he is going to leave his girlfriend for me at the end of the month. they have an event To go to that is quite important for her and he said he cannot do it before. however, recent days she has posted photos online with captions of love hearts and they have had very normal "couple-like" convos online that I have seen.

I have never mentioned him leaving, it is always him who has mentioned it and I feel lost and confused. I want to ask him but I don't know what to say which sounds rather silly.

I just want to know if he is going to plain and simple or we are both wasting each other's time. he was adamant that it will happen and be sorted soon.

PushingThru Thu 06-Aug-15 18:01:05

This man is going to break your heart whether he leaves his girlfriend for you or not. Dump him; he's a cheat & a liar.

Joysmum Thu 06-Aug-15 18:03:10

He's a heartbreaker he's risking her heart and he'll break yours too.

Sallyingforth Thu 06-Aug-15 18:06:50

Any decent man will finish a relationship before looking round for another.
If he's treating her that way he will treat you the same. Get out now.

Smorgasboard Thu 06-Aug-15 18:07:44

2 options - 1) no further contact until have proof it's all over ( not sure how you'd obtain that), 2) Give up as a bad idea and work out why you would entertain this notion in the first place when most wouldn't for many good reasons.

AuntyMag10 Thu 06-Aug-15 18:12:07

He should leave her because it sounds like you both deserve each other.

Branleuse Thu 06-Aug-15 18:16:20

you know it isnt.

Cabrinha Thu 06-Aug-15 18:38:53

Go take a look at yourself in the mirror.

Part of me wants to be kind that maybe there's a reason that you've got the morals of an alley cat.

Most of me is lacking any sympathy and thinks that you deserve the upset of being strung along. Not that his girlfriend does.

Sweetsecret Thu 06-Aug-15 18:43:12

If they will do it with you, they will do it to you. It always works out like that, get rid.

InTheBox Thu 06-Aug-15 18:44:08

why can't you find someone who is single and available? do you think that once you have him everything will fall into place and you'll have a happy ever after. this is a train wreck in the making. get out of it and look at working on your self-esteem.

LocksOfGold Thu 06-Aug-15 18:45:52

Why are you 'with' someone who has a girlfriend in the first place? Don't waste your time. What makes you any different to his current girlfriend that he is cheating on?... He won't hesitate to do it to you you.

Find a nice, honest, SINGLE guy.

InTheBox Thu 06-Aug-15 19:05:52

Have a look at the Baggage Reclaim site, especially this post about future faking:
www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/future-faking-is-partly-about-using-intentions-to-enhance-self-image/
"When somebody talks about or hints at the future to get what they want in the present."
You're setting yourself up for a major fall if you pursue this.

AttilaTheMeerkat Thu 06-Aug-15 19:11:08

I would second the recommendation to read Baggage Reclaim.

You are wasting your time with this low life.

You need to dump him before he further shits on you from a great height. I feel sorry for his girlfriend who likely has no idea that her man is seeing someone else. You are really the other woman here; is that how you envisaged yourself within any relationship?.

Anniegetyourgun Thu 06-Aug-15 19:16:16

Ah, it's not cheating because they've broken up really, he just hasn't told her yet. Is that the one known as "oldest line in the book"?

AcrossthePond55 Thu 06-Aug-15 21:47:52

To put it succinctly; no, it's not going to happen.

He's using you, AND her, and is probably so proud of what a player he is. He probably talks about both of you to his mates, and not in very flattering terms.

Is that really what you want? Is it?

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