Anyone...don't let this put you off leaving a rotter.
My ex bullied, abused and cheated (sex with co-worker for 4 years). I kicked him out in March when I discovered- we'd been together 16 years. But today I got the penultimate solicitors bill. I've now spent £3000 in getting rid of him. There's still one bill left to cover the legal work in me buying his 50% of our (now my) flat. The last £1500 was because he wanted to go back and forth changing things in our separation agreement, that I wouldn't and didn't have to agree to.
I hate him SO much. Still...at least I'm shot of him.
Freedom is priceless and it's worth paying whatever it costs to acquire it.
By my calculations yours has cost you £187.50 for every year you spent enamoured enslaved by a rotter and maybe you should give consideration to putting 4 quid a week under the mattress in case you have to buy yourself out again.
It's not worth taking the risk of becoming embittered by hatred, honey. Congratulate yourself on being shot of him and leave it to karma to settle all debts.
Octo, I cashed in the only savings I had to pay for separation agreement, solicitor advice, buying out of family home. I am on the bones of my arse. But I am free. So are you. That is priceless! I wish you happiness for the future!
Bargain I'd say. I'm three years down the line and £15,000 poorer and I still haven't managed to divorce my ex husband. It is astonishing how long these things can get dragged out for if someone really decides to be an arse.