A hapless father here so sorry for using a mums forum but hopefully I will be able to get some advice from a woman's perspective.
I have been happily married for almost 3 years now and we have been together for 6 years in total now. Sex has always been something that we have both enjoyed and although I wouldn't say we did it a lot I would say before our daughter came along we were probably at it once or twice a week on average. This continued into our marriage, probably more so as we were actively trying for our daughter but since she was born 14 months ago I can count the times we've had sex (or any intimacy for that matter) on one hand. I think it's been 4 or 5 times and on each of those occasions it's been a rushed missionary job with no foreplay and straight to sleep afterwards.
It's been 8 months now since we last had any intimacy and it's killing me. I love her so much and I'm not a shallow person but some level of intimacy with the women I love and have promised to stay with for the rest of my life is important to me and it's really starting to get me down to the point that I am feeling depressed about it.
I understand that it takes some time to get the spark back after having a baby but I can't help but think it's more than that. Whenever I ask her about it she won't talk to me and if I try and cuddle her or kiss her I feel rejected.
I don't want to pressure her or get into an argument as that just makes me look shallow but it's got to the point now where it is making me feel like maybe it's me that she doesn't want to be with or maybe she doesn't fancy me anymore.
I don't know what to do so any womanly advice would be appreciated. I'd ask my work pals but they'd just take the mick.
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haplessfather · 04/08/2015 13:23
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