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Is this a bit desperate?

(9 Posts)
Grammartiiime Mon 03-Aug-15 15:23:59

Long story short I was chatting to a guy on Internet dating who asked me out. We hadn't arranged plans but had been messaging back and forth via text after exchanging numbers.

I messaged last (about a week ago) responding to something he'd said and asked a question back out of politeness eg how's your day going?

He didn't message back and I left it.

Normally I would just leave it but I'm tempted to restart the conversation... Would be good to meet up for a drink in the long run.

Obviously if he doesn't reply I'll just leave it smile But a bit of me thinks this could come across as desperate and whether I should even bother.

What would you do? And what if anything would you say... Looking for something lighthearted/funny

TheStoic Mon 03-Aug-15 15:32:23

I'm thinking he's not interested. But you've got nothing to lose by contacting him one last time.

Just ask him if he fancies meeting up for a coffee.

Give yourself a deadline. If he hasn't responded by then, delete and move on.

Grammartiiime Mon 03-Aug-15 15:35:41

The stoic - you're prob right! Was just annoying that he started convo, asked me out twice and then instigated meet up (but then stopped responding!)

I do think that with OLD it's a bit easier to ignore people who you would otherwise talk to because it's so faceless and anonymous. He said I was the first person he had met up with in this way... Not sure how true that is though

If you were to say anything what would you say? Something that doesn't sound desperate preferably ;)

CheersMedea Mon 03-Aug-15 15:36:15

I'd leave it if I were you.

Forget about the non reply and look at the bigger picture - if he were really interested, he'd have arranged plans to meet by now if you have been texting regularly. Texting is lazy and easy. People serious about OLD and the person they are chatting to arrange to speak and/or meet up in short order.

Have a go if you want to, but I doubt it will end well. Either he'll respond and (a) you'll continue with the chat that goes no where or (b) he'll figure you are keen and he can at least get a couple of free shags out of it OR he'll ignore you.

CheersMedea Mon 03-Aug-15 15:38:48

Cross posted with your post above. This

Was just annoying that he started convo, asked me out twice and then instigated meet up (but then stopped responding!)

confirms what I was saying and actually makes it worse (there was a small chance he was new to OLD and not moving to meet ups quickly) because it shows that he knows that but wasn't interested enough to follow it through.

If you are looking for a relationship (as opposed to a few quick shags) I'd leave it. If you are looking for something more casual, then I guess you don't have anything to lose.

Jan45 Mon 03-Aug-15 16:02:10

No just don't, look at the results on here from posters who have done just that, he's not getting in touch because he doesn't want to, that simple, sorry.

FolkGirl Mon 03-Aug-15 20:28:17

No, don't message him again.

If he was interested he'd have got in touch.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Mon 03-Aug-15 20:30:18

This is just what happens with OLD. Don't ever consider a date a done deal until you're sitting on it drinking a glass of Pinot. If someone goes quiet on you then they have moved their interest elsewhere.

Ouchbloodyouch Mon 03-Aug-15 21:42:10

Ive had the offer of dates in the past and upon replying 'where and when ' I've been met with radio silence!
Don't message again. Sift through the amphibians

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