I want to know if I'm being extremely paranoid or if I have a right to think something is up and my husband is possibly cheating. I'm going to try and just stick to the facts here. I've thought something has been going on for a long time but without any proof I've been made out to be some crazy woman.
Left his old job 2 weeks ago. Usually mentions when people contact him but I found a group message from his old team that he seems to delete after every message.
Gave him the benefit of the doubt and asked certain questions in case it had just slipped his mind, but he lied and said nobody had contacted him at all that day (asked him a 2nd time and he said he was sure)
I went to the bathroom with my phone to check again the group message and he had deleted the few that were there when I found it.
I didn't confront him at this point and waited til he was asleep to get his phone to look through (although I look on his facebook I have never checked his phone although many times he has said I can). He jumped out of bed and ran at me snatching his phone out of my hand. I asked him why I couldn't look through it. He said he didn't want me too. I asked him if he had something to hide. He said he didn't but still refused to let me look at his phone. He said that I should trust that he isn't up to anything.
When he left for work this morning he still hadn't changed his facebook password so I checked again. The only girl from his team had messaged him saying she couldn't stop reading his goodbye email to her and it makes her fill up everytime. I text him straight away and within a minute he deleted the message, changed his facebook password and deleted and blocked said woman. I know he has her phone number and he's told me outright he's deleted and blocked that too.
His reason? Because he doesn't want anything to do with them anymore as he no longer work with them. Is this odd? Surely if there wasn't anything going on he wouldn't take such drastic measures? Or am I looking into things too much?
I decided to message this woman but she hasn't responded (she's getting married next year and has 2DSs). I've had one woman contact me that works in same office to say about him and this woman being seen together constantly - thought nothing of it. I've then had his ex contact me saying he's a womaniser and a cheat back in June - jealousy I thought.
So, no, I haven't got hard evidence. But does that even matter? I feel like I need solid proof for closure. I shouldn't be with him if I don't trust him, I know that.
We have been married 5 years have 2 DSs and a DD due to be born in just 3 weeks.
Sorry this is so long. I feel like a paranoid, pregnant mess but don't want to be taken for a fool either. Any advice would be very much appreciated. Thank you if you made it to the end.
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whenitgetsbetter · 03/08/2015 11:57
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