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emma1233 Sun 02-Aug-15 22:09:46

My partner does not help at all with our 4 month old little girl. I ask him daily to help look after her even the simple things like change her bum or give her some milk but he just ignores me.. has anyone else had things problem or some advice in what to do!!

MrsLeighHalfpenny Sun 02-Aug-15 22:11:07

Go out. Have an unmissable work thing and leave them at home overnight, or longer.

If you don't work, think of another reason to go away.

FuckOffPeppa Sun 02-Aug-15 22:13:02


emma1233 Sun 02-Aug-15 22:15:20

He still won't do anything as he will leave her to his mum or sister. I am constantly arguing with him to get him to help or at least do something for his daughter. It's got to the stage where I am constantly crying at night because I'm so tired and am not getting any help

spudlike1 Sun 02-Aug-15 22:17:34

Have you any idea why??

emma1233 Sun 02-Aug-15 22:18:46

Nope. He doesn't tell me anything all he does is play the xbox and talk to other girls all day long.

spudlike1 Sun 02-Aug-15 22:20:13

Other girls ??? Explain pls

butterflygirl15 Sun 02-Aug-15 22:22:06

get rid then.

FolkGirl Sun 02-Aug-15 22:25:13

Dump him. Being a lone parent is lovely if you're with someone like this!

He's not going to change because be doesn't give a shit.

You are worth more x

emma1233 Sun 02-Aug-15 22:39:26

By other girls I mean other girls that fancy him!! I'm scared he will try and take her away from me if I left him

borisgudanov Sun 02-Aug-15 22:42:31

His chances of achieving that are precisely zero and any threats along such lines are bullshit. Put the twat out with the rest of the rubbish.

PatriciaHolm Sun 02-Aug-15 22:43:16

Why would he want to take her? He can't be bothered with her when he lives in the same house, he certainly isn't going to want full time responsibility! He might say it to hurt you, but we've already established he's a twat.

Let some other girl have the lazy sod.

spudlike1 Sun 02-Aug-15 22:47:14

I think you are in an abusive relationship can you contact Woman's Aid to get help to leave him .. he won't take your baby away he wouldn't want to burden himself .

heyday Sun 02-Aug-15 23:14:29

Are you a young couple? Many young men are just not prepared for the responsibility of parenthood. He sounds very selfish and irresponsible.
He doesn't sound like he is going grow up any time soon.
Did he go on any of the dad to be courses?
He may just lack any idea of what to do or he may feel that looking after a baby is 'woman's work'.
If you really believe he isn't going to change then you need to start thinking whether you have any other means of support ie friends/family who could help out to give you a little break.

FolkGirl Mon 03-Aug-15 06:13:47

He wouldn't try to take her! I'd like to say "he'd lose interest very quickly" but he doesn't havw any interest in being a dad now.

Why do you think he'd want to do it full time? It's just a threat to keep you where he wants you.

It's up to you what you do, of course. But don't make a decision based on a fear he would take the baby. He wouldn't. He wouldn't be able to play on the xbox and chat with girls all day anymore.

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